Future sister-in-law stealing ideas

Hi Amanda! I am sorry to hear about this! I can definitely understand how you feel. Maybe you could try incorporating different colors apart from the traditional black and white checker to give yours a different twist with a pop of color. Since your getting married in March, I would use the spring season for inspiration. You could also incorporate another interest of yours into the racing theme to differentiate it! I would just continue brainstorming ideas of how you could make yours unique; you don't even have to make a huge adjustment. The simplest twist will do the work! Of course, Pinterest is a great place to get ideas, so I would reference it for inspiration! Don't worry; you'll work something out!! Good luck!!

We picked turquoise blue, black and white as the only colors because those are the colors of my FH's race car. My FH and I are more upset by the fact that he has already planned a racing themed wedding and the family knew about it, but my FSIL who HATES racing, decided that they were going to have a racing themed wedding after the fact. We wanted a simple, non-traditional wedding that fit our personalities and interests. No offense to anyone else, but weddings that we see in magazines look completely generic to us and we don't want that.

Listen- I definitely your wedding should be why you want. And please don’t get upset, But if your sister has her wedding before you- it’s not your problem if she choose racing things. Although she is right, nobody will care if the same things are used. Also- it’s also her day and if she wants to use it to make her new husband happy, I don’t see why she can’t make those decisions. I’m sorry you feel like she’s “stealing ideas” but really, this is not worth getting upset over ( and I’m a very emotional person) but your day was not “taken from you.” You’re still going to have your wedding and it will be completely different from your sil’s wedding. Personally, I don’t think a racing themed wedding is going to be pretty or classy. But there are plenty of things you can do- like at your reception carry you over the finish line. I would stop talking to her about your wedding if you think she’s stealing your ideas. But it is her right to have the wedding she chooses and unfortunately you’re just going to get over it. You don’t get to make decisions for her about her day just like she doesn’t get the right to make decisions on YOUR day.

From the day she got engaged, she said that she didn't want anything to do with racing at their wedding. She's also gone as far as to telling us what music and food we need to have at OUR wedding. And we don't want a super classy, pretty wedding like everyone else, we want what matches our personalities.

View Quoted Comment Well I think your wedding will be exactly what you want it to be. but even if she hates all those things- it’s still up to them. Don’t worry about them and focus on your day. Not theirs. What they choose to do doesn’t affect you. Breathe! Your wedding will be the best because you’re marrying your husband. Period. Please don’t let this jealousy of your sil and her husband’s wedding ruin what is important about yours! Your wedding is to celebrate your love for one another. It’s not a contest with your sil.