Garter Toss - yes or no??

I'm pretty sure we're not going to do the garter toss, but might do the bouquet toss. I don't even plan on wearing a garter...

We are not doing either. We are in our early thirties and a) i don't want him in my business in front of everyone and b) most of our friends are either married or unhappily single. A bridesmaid was like I don't want to be on the floor trying to catch your bouquet and the last wedding she went to she said the bride threw it and it hit the floor because no one wanted to catch it.

At a wedding i was at last year they had the same feelings you do, so basically pretended to take it from her leg when really the groom had it up her sleeve.

It's ridiculous and uncomfortable for everyone. Skip it.

I'll pass thanks. I always squirm when I see this at weddings

I did the bouquet toss, because damn it I've dreamed of it since a little girl, but DH REFUSED to do a garter toss. No one even commented about the fact we did one with out the other.

This all makes me feel better. I've no problem skipping it, I just thought the bouquet thing was fun. But I guess I should figure out how many single ladies there will be before I commit there, too because if there aren't many, I'd hate to see it fall to the floor. But I guess this is a resounding no for the garter toss and that makes me feel better.

I'm not doing either. There won't really be any single/unmarried women at our wedding and I really don't want FH digging around under my dress in front of everyone. I'm not even going to wear a garter and I'm pretty sure FH doesn't care either way.

I have wondered about this. We plan to do it, and I bought my garter set already with the keep and the toss garter. Are you supposed to wear both and he only throws one of them? I was thinking of having him put the throw one in his pocket and just making it look like he pulled it off of my leg. Also, face? Is he supposed to pull it off with his teeth? I don't like the idea of him sticking his head under my dress in front of everyone, but if its a quick grab with his hand I wouldn't mind so much.

I actually dreaded the bouquet toss when I was single as well. I found it sort of humiliating so I would just sit in my chair and hope no one would notice me but of course some drunk uncle would yell "Wait for Allysia! She needs all the help she can get" or something of that nature. I'm skipping both.

I'm basically with everyone else...bouquet toss ehh, fine. Garter toss, NO. FH feels this way too.

We plan to do both. Though I usually avoided the bouquet toss at other weddings, I have family and friends who are looking forward to it. As for the garter toss, they've always been PG rated. No faces under dresses. :-)

Bouquet toss = ehh. but fine.

Garter toss = TACKY. always. as a guest i always cringe when this happens.

I'm doing neither.

I did it, and I'm glad-- one of the best pictures was of my older brother (29 at the time) leaning over my baby brother (16) to snag that garter out of his hand-- too funny! Still, I can see lots of reasons not to do it.

As far as faces go, every wedding I've been to, the groom pulls it off with his teeth.. I've not personally minded that, just the idea of being the sweaty one... my dress is thick and heavy. Not going to be all lilacs and roses down there...

^^ Love that comment lol

But I'm skipping it. The story behind the bouquet toss is dumb, so I don't want to contribute to it. And the garter toss is for obvious reasons. One less thing I have to buy too.

We did neither at our wedding. I really didn't want to make our guests uncomfortable as my husband was all up under my dress trying to get the garter off my leg. Plus do you know how hot it gets under those dresses? No one wants to grab a sweaty garter just so they can say they are the next to get married.

I have only been to two weddings, one was my FH's father and step mom when we were first dating (very small wedding at the house, skipped all these sorts of traditions), and the other was when one of our BMs and GMs got married a few years ago. At their wedding at the bouquet toss one of the BMs had her strapless dress slip as she reached for the bouquet, so some people got a little more of a show than they bargained for. I didn't see the garter toss, but I had heard that most of the guys were not very interested (most of the single guys there were around 18-21 so pretty young to want to fight for a superstition to be the next to be married). But I guess this one guy who was one of the BM's boyfriend that none of us liked was like trying to fight over the garter that no one else really wanted and was very proud of himself for getting it, kind of awkward. So I guess I can see why people might want to exclude these activities.

I'm skipping the garter toss too. Too uncomfortable!

I'm doing neither. When I was truly single (i.e. not dating anyone seriously) it was awkward and uncomfortable to be out there for the bouquet toss. I absolutely will not make the small number of single ladies at my wedding feel that way.