Garter Toss - yes or no??

We are not doing either. But funny story at the last wedding we went too I caught the bouquet and FH caught the garter and we are the next ones getting married.

I had the same problem with it, and since my fiancé wanted to do it, all I did was have a garter ready to go on a football (never worn garter) and he tossed the football. I had the traditional bouquet toss. No one really noticed that we didn't do the garter removal. I had another garter at our hotel room that night to put on for him.

I am absolutely not wearing a garter. Google the history of the garter toss. I've heard/read several variations of the history of this "tradition" and I find most of them to be shady at best, and some of them downright offensive (Middle ages-groomsmen would chase the bride to the newlyweds' chambers and pull the garters off her).

And personally, as a single gal, I always hated being dragged out to the floor for the bouquet toss....

I'm pretty sure FH is a little bummed about the garter toss; I'm not at all bummed about skipping them both.

Skipping!

We're not doing either. However, normally the bride has 2 garters. The one she wears and the one to be tossed which is considerably cheaper. When my friend got married, right before the garter toss, she went to the ladies room and switched out the garter and took a "whore's bath"

Definition of whore bath: To wash up the stinkiest parts with a small washcloth and hot water in the sink

Skipping both. I haven't seen one in probably two years. And I am ok with that!

Played out and generic, IMHO. I'm glad many others agree

Def doing a bouquet toss with a toss bouquet, not my actual one. FH wants to do a garter toss, it doesn't really bother me so of all the little things to bicker about during the planning process, i won't fight him on this one haha. but i'll be using a cheap 2nd garter for that as well. tacky/ played out/ hated by WW brides or not, we're still doing it.

ironically.. my fh and I caught the bouquet and garter at our best friends wedding haha

I always find the garter toss a bit awkward as a guest - especially when they have the guy who catches it put it on the girl who catches the bouquet. At the last wedding I attended, this part made me cringe. So we'll be skipping it. I also want to skip the bouquet toss and do an anniversary dance instead. However, I'm on the fence about it because my family doesn't seem to have ever heard of this and it might be a little too non-traditional for them.

DH really wanted to do both, so we did. We had a bunch of unmarried people there, but just opened up the floor (and told our emcee that there was to be absolutely no pressure on people who didn't want to go up to try to catch) and we had a good crowd. But he just had the garter in his pocket--that way the guys and girls both got to try to catch something, but there was no awkwardness.

ETA: I should also note that we definitely did not do the whole guy-puts-garter-on-girl thing. I find that utterly horrifying.

I am not doing either; just don't care much about it.

We are definitely doing a bouquet toss I think they're hilarious but the garter toss would make me wait too uncomfortable my daddy will be there my grandparents I don't really want them seeing my husband going up my dress lol

Yeah.... We were talking about it and he joked about what if one particular guest catches it, and that guy can be super awko. None of my single friends will actually care to be part of the bouquet toss, so the floor will be empty. FH would pull it off with his hands, if we did do the toss. No teeth, no upskirt shots.

Maybe we'll both throw something into the whole crowd together, like bouquet/garter combo for naming rights to our first pet or something silly like that.

Lol im late to the game, and we did both. but I have the funniest picture of FH he looked up my dress (which was too poofy to see anything, he just lifted a little, and made this face then pulled it out with his HANDS.

No garter toss or bouquet toss for us. Didn't even cross our minds to do it.

At my FH's brother's wedding, they did the garter toss but the groom instead pulled out a giant pair of granny panties (from his sleeve, acting like he "found" them under her dress) LOL. Funny story to talk about now, but I would DIE if FH did that to me!! At our wedding, I think we will be skipping both - I'm not one for doing traditional things just for the sake of it.

Interestingly , the tradition started because it was customary in the 14th century for the guests to leave with a piece of the bridal gown-ripping pieces from her gown during the celebration, leaving her in rags!

Brides didn't like that so much(!), so they substituted a garter instead. Then they found the drunken men would try to take the garter (which also signified the bride's virginity), which also didn't sit well with the bride (imagine having drunken men groping you during the reception!). So--they ended up leaving the removal and toss of the garter to the groom--and substituting the tearing of the gown by female guests by tossing them the bridal bouquet instead.

Well, we're NOT in the 14th century--so anything goes! Do the garter, don't do the garter. Do the bouquet toss, don't do the toss!

At least you're leaving the celebration with your gown intact!

Interesting bit of history, Mya! So little is commonly known about the traditions of weddings, the veil, the bridesmaids, the white dress... It's very interesting, and kind of weird.

Anyway, do what you want to do and don't feel bad about it. I won't be doing the toss because we'll be in our thirties and there won't be very many single ladies there. And I would be MORTIFIED if we had to do the garter toss. To be honest I don't think I've been to a wedding where I've seen it done, but I have seen a few bouquet tosses.

We did both . I wore thigh highs, for two reasons , I can't wear shoes without socks and 2, the garter. It didn't get "hot and sweaty ".

Not to mention when it came time for the toss , I slyly slipped the garter down to the bottom of my leg . There was no heads under dresses. That's just not necessary. You can have the garter toss and still be tasteful. Funny that my gay best friend was the one that caught it though ...actually relieved it wasn't my cousin. Lol

It's all about your DJ, a good DJ will make it fun but will not embarrass you guys.

We are skipping both. I have always been that girl who is conveniently in the bathroom or in line at the bar or outside while the bouquet toss happened. I don't think anyone will mind us not doing either because I'm the youngest girl in the family, and we don't really have any single friends, and when we went to a wedding last year, half my family got I upset with what occurred during the garter toss. I'd day do what makes you comfortable