Garter Toss - yes or no??

I am not wearing a garter as they look uncomfortable. Even if I wore one I would not do the toss. I do not want something that is considered intimate like the garter being tossed to the guys. I'm most likely not tossing my bouquet either as there are only going to be 4 unmarried girls at the wedding, 5 if I include my daughter who is 10. Of the 4 adults that are unmarried 2 are our grandmothers who are widowed and 2 are cousins who are expecting. Just doesn't seem worth it to me. Now if the grandmothers want to participate in the bouquet toss then I will do it, just because I think it would be cute to see them after a bouquet. If they don't want to then I won't toss it. I know my wedding is 6 days away and this is something I just plan to play by ear. Garter though absolutely not. I am not comfortable with FH lifting my dress in front of everyone for it.

I did at mines. Where I'm from that is the normal. My husband did not go under my dress with his face, he just put his hands under and grab it. It was so much fun. All weddings I go to has removing the garter during the reception. The smile he had while doing it was the best.

We wanting to do both...... but all our guests are married and not sure how to go about it as all guests are married.

I want to do it as I find it fun, any ideas and suggestions please. Wedding is on the 29/04/2018.....HELP

At the last wedding I attended, the Emcee called all the women at the reception to come try for the bouquet. It was nice because then it was more about the tradition but also fun for anyone. The flower girl was like 8 and she was all excited trying to catch it lol. . Much less awkward. As an older couple, few of our friends are single so we are thinking of doing an “open” toss of my second bouquet and skipping all garter rituals. Any other older brides agree?

My experience with the garter toss was humiliating... none of the men wanted to catch the garter. They all took a huge step back and let it fall right in front of them. The DJ then insisted they try it again but they still did the same thing. I really wish i didn't do the garter toss, my self-esteem has been low since then. Other things didn't go so well either so I'm hoping to renew our vows in a few years. I really want my fairytale wedding.

Totally feel the same way! I'm not so sure about the whole garter toss, bouquet toss. Still up in the air! I like the whole tradiaitonal part of it but I also don't want to be like everyone else if you know what I mean LOL

Fortunately, a sizeable chunk of brides and grooms are starting to push back against the inane drivel of so called wedding "traditions" such as the garter toss and the chicken dance. The worst part about a wedding ceremony "tradition" is that it's a placeholder and a time suck. For the DJ to play "all the single ladies" while she tosses flowers and then they immediately shift into a few bars of "oh yea" by Yello and it is not only uncomfortable for some to look at, it's 100% unoriginal. You might as well use an iPad playlist if the DJ you paid $600 for three hours of work is just going to read from the same script everyone else got at their wedding 30 years ago. We wanted our wedding to not be the same as everyone else's in our parents generation. since the price tag was $35,000 the least they could do is put in some originality and thought into the whole games and charade portion of the ceremony thats supposed to be entertaining but is anything but. They called it tradition to try to sell it but it works against them that people have been doing this for decades because that just proves the point that it is being packaged without any consideration for that specific wedding party and guests.