Get it over, already

Hey I just wanted to say that Hang in there but also that this is your space too and you should not be spoken to that way. Hope you claim your space and the event is a great, wonderful moment in your life.

Not cool that he is yelling at you. But my FH can't stand the venue manager at our venue either, thinks she is awful and never shows up for meetings that she wants to have with us. Not saying it's good that he is yelling at you, but he needs to calm down and not yell at you.

Life is stressful. He definitely shouldn't be yelling but if hes anything like my FH he probably has a small fuse. My FH never yells at me personally but he yells at a lot of people and sometimes I just have to remind him that theres a lot of things in our life out of our control and this happens to be one of them. As for the aggression of forcefully removing her that is frustrating, my FH is also former LEO and did all sorts of martial arts his entire life so he usually defaults to force when something like this happens as well I have had to talk him off a ledge a few times before he broke someones face (not literally but you could see the rage in his eyes). Again with my FH these are usually times I need to sit him down and remind him there worse things in life and this too shall pass. Our common saying in our household is "Keep the faith." He needs to learn how to transgress his rage and do something productive with it or at least learn how to not take it out on you.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

My mom always said that planning a wedding is the first trial of your marriage and basically gives you a preview of how stress/conflict will be handled throughout your marriage. She said this was true for her, and for most of her friends as well.

Doesn't mean it necessarily has to stay that way, if he is willing to work on it... but I recommend sitting down and having a conversation with him about this, and how it really isn't fair for him to be taking out his stress on you, when you're stressed too and it's not your fault or under your control.

The yelling is way out of line. The venue pricing isn't even your fault, so he had no right to take it out on you. Make it clear that this type of behavior is never okay and its hurt you deeply