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Master April 2012

Get married sooner? Should we?

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Kimi k., on March 29, 2011 at 11:39 AM

Ok, so I haven't talked to FH about this, b/c I don't know how to approach. I'm afraid if I propose this then he won't want to go through with the actual big 'TADA!' of a ceremony next April...And I'm afraid it will take away from the essence of the day...but here's my dilemma. FH has 2 teens he has...

FH has 2 teens he has custody of, and I have 2 little ones (7&8). In June he has planned to move back into his house until it sells. It's just too financially strenuous on both of us to keep up 3 homes. He wants me to move with him too. Which I want to. But here's my dilemma...Do we get married first? I don't want to not practice what I preach...which is "you get married before you live together'. It's something I didn't practice before and it blew up in my face. I made it very clear that I want to be married before we live together. AND I don't want to send the kids the wrong message. I'm not saying that living together isn't ok...its just not how I was raised...

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Michelle ~ aka Lovestruck · on March 29, 2011 at 8:29 PM
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My husband and I will have been married one month shy of 13 years when we do our renewal (we basically eloped, so no wedding at all) and I can tell you, I am more excited than ever! Even more so than the first time I was married.
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Just Said Yes July 2012
Elizabeth · on March 29, 2011 at 10:29 PM
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Elizabeth's mom here. I believe you should stick with your convictions. If you don't, one way or another you may end up resenting your fiancé for asking you to give up your moral convictions. I also agree that you have to set a living example for your children. I got married 20 years ago this coming April and I had a child from a previous relationship. My husband, then fiancé, and I decided to not sleep together and remain pure with each other. I even wore white in our wedding symbolizing God's forgiveness for my past and my commitment to remain pure with my fiancé . I have never regretted that decision. I also have two grown daughters that have a lot of respect for their mama who practiced what she preached. Ultimately, the decision is between you and God. Bless you.
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Master April 2012
Kimi k. · on March 29, 2011 at 11:08 PM
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Wow ladies! Y'all are so amazing! I'm sorry I didn't come back sooner. Fh said that our commitment to each other with the engagement and everyday life has already taught the kiddos so much about love, respect and honor. I'm going to continue to pray about it. I love all of you ladies for the loving words and encouragement!!!
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