Get ready outfits for pregnant bridemaids?

@OP I suggested you ask her what she would prefer to wear. I also never insulted you

@Macy-That's a great idea. In fact, if we treated our bridal party equitably and just let them wear what they wanted, maybe we wouldn't have so many "Drama" posts. Most people know how to dress for a bloody wedding. Let them wear what they want.

@Jessie so did you let your bridesmaids wear whatever they wanted?

For the wedding?

FFS I'm pretty sure OP is not going to be FORCING anyone to wear the damn shirts.

OP, definitely ask your friend what she would be comfortable in, but if the day comes and she has changed her mind, then let her wear whatever she feels comfortable in. Same goes for the rest of the BM's. If you want to buy them a cute shirt, that's not a problem but I'm sure if any of them just REALLY don't want to wear it, then it won't be a big deal.

@OP - I think my comment may have gotten lost in the fray, but what about customized zip up sweatshirts? Your BMs can wear what they're comfortable in underneath, and an unzipped sweatshirt can accommodate a pregnant stomach.

@ Jessie matching t-shirts is hardly following the crowd lmao. A bit dramatic here on your end.

@JessieJV if that's your stance then I totally get your posts. For anyone else that has made their bridesmaids purchase and wear a bridesmaid dress, I think it's pretty hypocritical to get on the OP for having get ready outfits that they don't have to pay for and that are likely way more comfortable than a bridesmaid dress.

@Stephanie I did miss that, sorry! That's great advice, thank you. It is January but we live in South Florida so it may be a little hot? Last thing I want to do is overheat everybody but perhaps I can look into thin t-shit material zip ups. Ty

Yep, my BMs are wearing their own dresses/outfits. I'm getting married at a time of year that it could be 40*C with humidity or 25*C and gorgeous. So, I want them to dress however they are comfortable to dress in that weather. I don't even care if it's a dress.

ETA: @Macy - So no, I'm not being a hypocrite. I don't give a flying fuck what anyone in my wedding wears, just so long as they're there.

Oh and OP, as soon as you say "it's what everyone I know does", you're following the crowd. You could break from the norm...

I think the recommendations of asking the ladies what they would be comfortable in is a great idea!! If you're ordering offline you can just make sure to get the comfiest material and make sure the are big enough so their bellys aren't showing. Otherwise you could go the DIY route and go shopping with the girls and pick out tshirts or tank tops so they can feel and try on? Then you could iron or vinyl on words?

@Jessie now your viewpoint makes a lot of sense. While you can choose to have your bridesmaids wear whatever they want to the point where they may not be wearing dresses, thats not necessarily the case for a lot of people on here. That's your choice but not what most people are doing. Why do I need to break from the norm because of what you're doing with your wedding? If you want to be so against the norm go for it, but that has nothing to do with my wedding.

@KisstheKochs GREAT IDEA!

I agree with you it's ok not to have a 100% Pinterest wedding. I am not following everything everybody else is doing. FFS I'm buying tshirts and my bridesmaids are wearing matching color dresses. I'm good on recommendations on how to be super unique and different. Thanks.

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I think that as long as the dresses are comfy then that's a different story. However getting ready in specific outfits that may be uncomfortable/unflattering/insulting(when they don't fit) is a different matter. This is the relaxing time of a long day, and for a pregnant woman-an exceptionally long day.

Why did I wear flannel? Because it was winter. Nothing fit me at all(including mat clothes) so we went to a men's store and got the biggest shirt they could find. Flannel. It was all I had to wear. Because my arms swelled up I couldn't wear shirts with bands around sleeves. Because I gained 100 pounds and didn't even want to see the outline of my body. Because my boobs hurt and were so massive I just didn't want to even deal with them.

Granted I had twins so that made it so much worse.

Actually my viewpoint comes from hearing friends of mine who have been in weddings whinging about stupid shit the brides have made them do for a photo op. I just want my friends to enjoy themselves with no pressure, for some people I guess that's too much to ask.

@ Jessie yes, I'm going to go with that it is too much to ask that just because you are deciding to be so unique and have your BMs not even wear dresses that other people should follow suit.

@Helena sounds like a good solution

Wow this post blew way up.

Maybe she'd be more comfy in a button up flannel? Those can be super cute too!

Also do you dresses have straps or sleeves? Neither mine nor my MOH's did. Neither of us wanted to wear a bra and get the dreaded "strap lines" on our shoulders. We wore what ever we wanted. Both ended up being great big button ups.

The person who is pregnant can choose whatever dress in a certain color so she will be able to find something she feels comfortable in. She was happy with that