Get ready outfits for pregnant bridemaids?

I'm usually #teamsnarky but this is a dumb thing to pick OP apart for. You can tell its a slow day on the forums when peeps are getting super passionate about what the BM's wear to get ready. FWIW, I think it is nice that OP was at least trying to think about what they would be comfortable in.

@Mrs Fall Bride. Cool story bro. Considering I'm providing the shirts to them when they show up all they have to show up with is the bridesmaids dress. I'm sure that's not too difficult to pack.

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FFS, I'm too old to be "cool and unique". I'm just trying not to piss off my friends so we can get drunk and have some fun at my wedding. Not having to pick out clothes for another adult is rather fun, especially when you already have children you have to do that for on the regular.

I feel like selecting 1 shirt for somebody is not really an overwhelming process. Also having your bridesmaids pick their dresses but in a matching color also didn't seem overwhelming. However I don't have kids yet so I guess I don't understand how complicated small things like this get once you have a child (eye roll). I love how to you wearing a matching dress is mutually exclusive to getting drunk and having fun. Your logic is baffling to me.

Have you never been to or in a wedding before? What do you do at weddings? I usually go to eat copious amounts of food and drink myself into oblivion then party like a fiend on the dance floor until the venue shuts down. What are weddings like where you're from?

I needed popcorn for this thread. If y'all don't have helpful advice for the question that was asked, don't say anything at all. To the one friend, no @ needed, just bugger off. It's truly none of your business. I have been a BM with matching get ready clothes and the pictures were cute and fun

Tell me again how my friends who bought these matching shirts for their wedding party and bachelorette parties are going to hate matching shirts? This is my friends group. I have been in 7 weddings. All of those weddings we have worn bridesmaids dresses, drank, danced, and had fun. Wore matching get ready outfits in most of them. We all had fun with it and loved it. Sorry your group of friends are different but your experience does not equal mine and my friends.

I'm with @JessieJV on this.

If one of my BMs were pregnant, I would forgo the getting ready outfit and let everyone be comfortable however they want. It's impossible to know how she will feel or look, and honestly, that's most important in my book.

The only reason for doing matching shirts/robes is for getting ready photos... so yeah it definitely is using your BMs as a prop. There is no other purpose. "It's just what we do" isn't a purpose... it's done for the photos. Be serious.

I'm not saying someone can't or shouldn't do the outfits. I'm saying it's hard enough on a pregnant BM to get the appropriate dress and size when she literally has no idea how big she will be in several areas of her body. I just don't see the value in another escapade into clothing a heavily pregnant dear friend for a photo op. Her comfort is paramount. My matchy photos are not.

@Vicki the BMs wearing matching dresses is also using them for props along those lines. So is wearing a wedding dress, doing your hair and makeup. It's also for feeling pretty, but unless you aren't taking any pictures of the wedding than most things are a visual experience. If you're not taking photos with your bridesmaids in their dresses then so be it, but if you are then that is also a prop with your logic.

@OP, No, my BMs are only being asked to buy a dress in my color. They can choose any style they are comfortable in. Again, THEIR comfort is paramount. Not my matchy photos.

The only expectation for a BM is to wear the dress requested by the bride. I requested they choose any long dress in my color. That's it. It's going to be hard enough for a heavily pregnant friend to estimate her size and order a dress that'll fit comfortably when she doesn't even know her size.

Getting ready photos aren't a requirement and I guess I just wouldn't subject my friend to additional potential discomfort or embarrassing her if the shirt doesn't fit and she's the only one who can't wear it, all for a cheesy photo.

That's just me caring more about my friend and her comfort then getting ready pictures. It's just not that important.

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@Vicki guess what, as much as you would love to put me on blast, my pregnant friend is also in the same situation as your friends. Any gray dress. So she is comfortable. Sorry you can't bash me on that one.

@bride2be how did I put you on blast or bash you? I didn't. I pointed out that I thought it was inconsiderate. And unnecessary.

You don't seem to give a shit. Cool.

You posted here for feedback. You got some. Sorry you didn't agree with all of it; that's what you get on the internet.

If you read my post, it said "I wouldn't subject my friend to any additional potential discomfort or embarrassment" and that is the difference between you and I. I would skip the shirts to avoid any potential issue as her comfort > my getting ready photos being matchy.

You care more about your matchy getting ready pics. That's fine. Just own it.

@Vicki you accusing me of caring more about my photos than my friend is inaccurate. If that was the case I would have never created this post and asked what pregnant people felt comfortable wearing.

@OP, another thought as your wedding is in January - I get easily cold, maybe something with longer sleeves for everyone would be nice?

All of you are being selfish and inconsiderate!!!!! Gosh!! Stop already if @bride2be2018 wants to get matching outfits why cant she!!!! If her friend is not comfortable then she will tell her... and i dont know if half of you do not speak english but she wasnt even asking that, all she asked what what style of top would i pregnant woman prefer!!! Gosh!!!

@Adventures thank you that's definitely an option. Some have mentioned flannels or a zip up sweater which are both good ideas.

Bride2Be2018, a friend asked me to be in her wedding and I agreed. 5 months before her wedding, we learned we were pregnant. 3 months later, we learned with twins. Like you, she was concerned about my comfort. She gave me a knee length terry cloth robe that zipped up the front and was personalized with my name. Just give her something that's easy to get in and out of and she can use after she gives birth.

I didn't even get dressed in my third trimester, unless I had to leave the house. Then it was maternity yoga pants and an oversized shirt of DH. And I was so bloody uncomfortable. I was huge and cranky. I gained more weight than I thought possible. I waddled. I went to my cousin's wedding at 7 1/2 months. I didn't do family pics because I was so uncomfortable and self-conscious. Well, I (honestly) accidentally missed the family pics. I apologized to my cousin after (as I left - exhausted - at 9:00) and he wanted to take a pic with me. I told him I was huge and really uncomfortable with pics - he respected that and we went back to our hotel. I did stand in the back of one at our table with him and his wife, but I could hide a bit. So there's a thought with getting ready pics too. I love my cousin, but I really didn't want to be in any pics.

ETA sorry - didn't notice the date of OP.

We wore bridesmaid tank tops and cute little zip ups for both of my sisters wedding.

I still wear the zip up all the time.

We did have a pregnant BM in one of the weddings. She wore the zip up and sweats. Everyone matched it was super cute and everyone was comfy.