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Beginner May 2019

Getting baby booties for a bridal shower gift

Marissa, on May 21, 2018 at 1:07 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
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So I just know from other showers and other family members that my MIL likes to give the bride baby booties for a shower gift. My husband an I don’t really plan on having kids immediately, if ever. It’s just not in our plan. I also have some health problems that I’ve been told could interfere with conceiving. I feel like I’d be really uncomfortable to get baby booties as a gift because when she makes comments and asks about me having babies ALL THE TIME. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask her to not give me baby booties? I don’t want to dictate her gift, but I’m just going to feel so uncomfortable if I open that in front of all these people and I have to pretend to be happy about it. She makes me feel like a walking womb enough as it is and I’m just fed up to be honest.

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Latest activity by OrangeCrush, on May 21, 2018 at 10:00 PM
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    Super June 2018
    Erica ·
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    Can you address it without drama, if not I would just smile and move to the next gift. But only a heart felt convo about how you really feel it won't stop, plus even then it may not help. So sorry your going thru this
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    Beginner May 2019
    Marissa ·
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    It’s just such a defeating feeling. I see how awkward it is when the brides who gets them wants kids. It’s going to be even worse for me since I might not be able to, not do we really want to. And I know once we get married it’s only going to get worse.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    I would sit down with her and have a heart to heart with her. There's never a guarantee for people who even are 100% sure they want kids that it will happen. I think it's a bit odd to give that kind of gift at a wedding shower.

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    Beginner May 2019
    Marissa ·
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    She did it with her daughter, her other songs fiancée, cousins, and her best friend’s daughter. She’s very focused on grandchildren. No one has produced yet and it’s driving her craaaazy.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    It is so frustrating! As soon as I got engaged the comments started at work asking when I was going to give my son a little brother or sister. These people have no idea that in my previous marriage I had 2 miscarriages(one that almost gave me cancer) and then went through fertility treatments for 2 years with no success after having my son. It was heartbreaking then and it just all came flooding back. FH wants to have a child with me one day but I've already come to accept that the chances are SUPER slim that it will happen.

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    Beginner May 2019
    Marissa ·
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    I think moms just get so excited. My mom has never made a comment to me, but she already had one grandchild through my brother. This lady is just chomping at the bit.
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  • OrangeCrush
    Super October 2017
    OrangeCrush ·
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    I would find this very frustrating and frankly, kinda passive aggressive, and this is coming from someone who got married the first time openly wanting kids. That is a very odd and frankly kinda weird gift to give at a BRIDAL shower. Very assuming of her, and someone (your fiance?) needs to tell her (not ask) her to stop or at least refrain from this gift at your BRIDAL shower.

    Moms who are over the top about grandkids are off putting to me, tbh.

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