Getting legally married before the wedding?

I understand wanting to get married soon. FH and I live together and I would still marry him today if I could. But at one month away that seems “pointless” to me tbh.

View Quoted Comment Oh we aren't cancelling the wedding. We would still have the wedding and treat it as our wedding, so refunds needed

Wow, I'm shocked by the negative responses on here. It's your life and your partnership, and it's not the 1800's where your "purity" is on the line (unless you're very religious).

We're getting legally married in a few weeks for 2019 tax purposes. The only other detail I'll include is that my partner and I have been together for 12 years, so we're really, truly sure we're all in on the marriage idea. It sounds like the two of you are also wanting the legal component for logistical reasons, too, so, if you haven't already I say go for it!

View Quoted Comment I need his tricare after an accident and the BAS payments which go through instantly are going to pay off the last of the wedding avoiding any more debt

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I realized I missed some of your earlier clarifications and updated my comment! I'm glad to hear you're not under the mistaken impression that love is more meaningful only after the ink has dried. =)

My fiance and I are actually taking about doing this because even tho he is a US citizen and has been for 47 yrs (father is a full bird colonel) he was born abroad and it will be way past our wedding date before his replacement documents arrive. In our home state we need birth certificates for marriage license but not across state lines...weird i know!

View Quoted Comment Yeah we're trying to figure out the immigration dance too with the wedding because I only have so long on my wedding and no ssn etc

View Quoted Comment Doesn't make a difference on our love its is also effected by how long he's been away too

View Quoted Comment Is there any real reason to not make legal vows at the exact time you are ready to do so? None. Do it when you both feel it's right. Waiting for venue availability and a crowd of your closest is externally driven societal bs, which should not define your deepest union. And reply #1 is off, there is no reasonable etiquette rule stating that others need to know you've already made legal vows. None. Cingratulations on finding your true love ❤

Just wait, if you can. EVERY bride and groom goes through the "I can't wait any longer" dance. It's a perfectly normal thing to feel. Unless there is some emergency that necessitates getting official this second, don't rush.

View Quoted Comment Yeah in the time between making the post and now I got hit by a car 😅 so I need his tricare