My fiancé is from Florida, and I’m from Kansas. My fiancé is 27 but his dad is 92. Yes you read that right. So the concern is getting him on a plane to come to our wedding. They said they could do it, but we’re afraid he would be exhausted, and moody. He moves around and is very healthy for 90, but no one has a crystal ball to know how he will be come wedding time. So the plan is to get married in Florida. But having a beachy vibe, hot, Florida wedding was always exactly what I didn’t want. All of the venues in the area around where they live (and easy for guests to fly into) are just not my style at all. Of course since everyone thinks Florida is the greatest thing since sliced bread, my FI, some of the guests we asked, and both sets of parents want it there. I am also concerned that most of my people won’t go because of the expense. People say they will but when they realize how much it is to fly, get a hotel, rent a car or Uber on top of gifting us something, I don’t think we can just count on many to come. My family is footing practically the whole bill, so it’s frustrating me that we will likely be paying for his whole crowd and just my immediate family. I’m not excited to have my parents pay $15,18,20K for a wedding that is just not what I love. It is also crazy that we would plan a wedding to be in the location that the least amount of our guests are from. We just found my absolute dream venue in Kansas City (lots of trees and greens that make for gorgeous photos, a gazebo, an all wood floor and everything is white, chandeliers)- the complete opposite of what venues are in Florida.
It sucks that the rhetoric around weddings is to do whatever you want because it’s your day but that really isn’t the case. Am I crazy? Anyone had a similar situation or suggestions?
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