Getting married on a Thursday???

View Quoted Comment How nice! That makes me feel better. Thanks for sharing!

View Quoted Comment Good point! Thankfully both our families are local so hopefully that won’t be an issue!

View Quoted Comment Very true!!

We chose the date 4/3/21 because we LOVED the ring to it- it just happened to fall on a Saturday. When plans changed (my daughter canceled her wedding), I tried to convince my fiancé to change the day so we could get married sooner. Even tried the “you know if we get married on a Thursday it’s a lot cheaper...” He turned all of it down. We love our venue & our wedding date.
I’ve never been invited to a Thursday wedding & depending on who it is/how close we are, where is at- so many variables. My fiancé is a firefighter & works a constant rotating shift, where I’m a Monday- Friday work schedule. Have a boss who’s very accommodating but not everyone does.

Unfortunately, I don't think you can necessarily count on the if they truly want to be there then they will find a way to attend. People have children they have to consider and may not be able or want to take the following day off work. Both could be reasons they either don't attend or choose to leave early. I think you have to decide if you are okay with a higher than normal decline rate or your guests leaving super early.

I am also thinking of doing a Thursday wedding! I think it will work well especially if your guests are local! I think who ever needs to be there will be there and it makes it meaningful and intimate! 🤍

View Quoted Comment Awesome!! I agree. My fiancé and I were hoping for a smaller, more intimate wedding anyway! All of these comments are making me feel a lot better thanks for responding!!

It's not weird, but I would expect a higher than average decline rate and more people leaving early. With a Thursday wedding, people would have to take time off work (a half day at minimum because unless you have a super late start time, people getting out of work at 5pm would have to possibly commute home before changing and heading to the wedding. And more people would probably leave the wedding early due to work the next day. Some people may have a more difficult time requesting that time off or have other obligations. I don't like to say "the people that want to be there will be there" because there are many barriers that may exist for a person to attending a weekday wedding. I would maybe reach out to a few VIP people and ask them what they think and if it is something that would work for them.

View Quoted Comment True! We have already reached out to close family and they have been supporting whatever my fiancé & I want to do! However, I still feel bad that it may still be an inconvenience to them (even though they claim it’s not)!

I don’t think it’s weird either but if you were to do it, maybe it would be better to later in the evening

View Quoted Comment I say go for it!

I don't see much of an issue with it at all especially since you're planning on having it in the evening. I would just send out save the dates a little earlier than usual to give people plenty of time to make arrangements or even reach out with concerns.

View Quoted Comment That’s a great idea! Thank you for the suggestion

We're doing a Thursday wedding in June 2021 with a 5:30pm ceremony start time. While our wedding will be local to us, in Bozeman, MT many of our guests will be travelling from different states. Several guests have expressed their excitement to finally come out west and see yellowstone, so they're making a trip of it and the day didn't matter. Some of our guests have also told us they can't spend the money to come, which we completely understand- sounds like it had more to do with where and less to do with when. All of our local friends are coming! We talked to our wedding party first to make sure they could all come, then booked it! I say send it- If someone can't plan with months in advance around a work schedule for a single day, then you are not a priority to them and you have to accept that.

View Quoted Comment That’s wonderful! I completely agree. You make a valid point

I vote not weird at all. We're planning a Wednesday wedding. We wanted October and to honor my grandparents who raised me we're getting married on their anniversary, October 20. It's a Wednesday as luck would have it...so be it!!

View Quoted Comment That’s so incredible! Thank you for sharing

Our wedding is a destination wedding and we will be getting married on a Sunday. My FH and I agreed that those who will want to see us married with make sure they take the allotted days off. I am sending out the save the dates 11 months in advance so our guests know when and where the wedding will be ahead of time!


At the end of the day it’s your day!

View Quoted Comment Very true! Sending the save the dates way in advance is a great idea.