Getting married on the DL and having a ceremony later - Need advice

View Quoted Comment Exactly!!! This thread and responses just nauseated me lol. If she doesn’t want to tell guests she doesn’t have to. You don’t owe anyone an explanation lol. And I will not be telling my guests either I got married prior to our wedding either.

Girl these comments suck!!


I’m actually looking into this right now, as my fiancé and I are waiting for marriage to be intimate, so we’re thinking about going to courthouse now and having our ceremony next year. Sad we should even have to explain ourselves!

View Quoted Comment I totally get it it. I am thinking if doing this with mine. We want to buy a house together but I don't want to move in with someone I am not married to. Also the sex part. We want to get married then have the ceremony later.

My brother and his wife got married at the courthouse and then did the big wedding two years later. My brother is in the military so they went to the courthouse before he went off to Japan. He came back to the states for the week of the “big wedding”

Wow, these comments are extremely judgmental and selfish. The only ones that matter are the couple, after all it’s their life and their relationship. Many people on here seem to think the world owes them everything and seem surprisingly entitled. If you support a couple, you’ll do it whole-heartedly regardless of their marital decisions. Thankful that we have a new generation of people on here that understand what truly matters.

It’s about you and your SO no one else has a say or a right to feel anyway about what you choose to do. Wanna get married keep it a secret then have a ceremony do it. No one has to know you aren’t married but the officiant. You know your wedding date let everyone else think what they want. Ultimately it’s your life and no theirs.