Getting nastier by the day

🙋🏼‍♀️ It’s stress!!

Ive started making lists, because I get to caught up in thought and I feel like I have to think it all of the way through... but now I just make a list and type out what’s in my head and I know I can go back to it later.

Yes! Ha! Oh man. Just try to ridges on the reason you are under this stress and make a conscious effort to enjoy the time leading up to your wedding party attention to your negative thoughts and try to stop them when they start. Do runs that help you feel better and take care of you. Wine, yoga, Netflix. Whatever it is. And hug your fiance in case you've been snarky!

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Ah i've been doing the same. I'm definitely a list person for everything lol

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I'll try my best it's sooo hard. It's usually never towards him because he's pretty chill .. thank God for his sake. It just sucks because I am NEVER like this. I usually do everything in my power to help others and always say yes, even if I don't really want to. Now that I'm actually saying no I feel that people are having an issue with that...

Yes aha I felt like I had no chill for BS when guests would annoy me about CAN I HAVE A PLUS ONE or when my groomsman was being annoying xD it definitely is the stress and sometimes you also just realized people can be really annoying and inconsiderate.

View Quoted Comment It’s are 45 days out, and until recently we’ve had little help from family, but now suddenly everyone has strong opinions and I just can’t deal with the negative comments on everything that I’ve put all of my energy into for the last 6 months. 😭

in addition to lists, try going to like a spin class, or something that you can Channel your energy into that’s also productive. I know I always feel more clarity and just less anxiety in general after a good spin class.

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I think that's my biggest issue.. people being inconsiderate. Yes of course the day is about the marriage of two people who love each other. BUT it does cost MONEY to even ask that question is insulting honestly.

I keep going back and forth between, excited, nervous, annoyed, tired. Mostly my mom is annoying me, because we have the same conversation almost every day right now! I've perfected my "nod and say okay" face and line!

I've found making my lists to check off, and also taking time to do non wedding stuff is helping. FH and I took a 2 mile walk last night at around 10pm, and it was great! I felt a lot better after.

I don't know that I'm "nastier" but my stress level is higher all the time now and I crave alone time, even from my FW sometimes. On top of that I used to take my Sundays to clean the house, do laundry, cook, and now all I want to do is binge watch something and keep the curtains drawn. I have zero motivation to do daily things.

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Same girl, its super stressful! I know once the day comes I'll forget about all the stress.

I was so tempted to punch my MOH the day before the wedding because she was on my absolute last nerve. Lol
We aren't friends anymore. 😂

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Oh my people are asking you to do things for them??? Just say no!!! People can suck it while you are working on getting to your wedding you are allowed to have the focus on you.

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It will definitely all be worth it! We are having an elopement before the big celebration and even that is starting to stress me for no reason at all. I'm a list maker and even that isn't helping my anxiety. But that moment I see her all dressed up is what puts it all back into focus. I truly am marrying my best friend. We'll breathe together until then!

I was getting really nasty a few months ago (around May). I just started my diet, and was running on limited food, hungry, getting over being sick, and for some reason 5 mos. until the wedding felt like 2 weeks.

Thankfully it past. Almost everything is done, and 74 days before the wedding, feels great. There's a few things to figure out, but it's definitely doable.

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OH MY GOD. lol that is horrible my maid of honor said she has no issue telling people how it is that day. she worded it " you're marrying them not me, if I have to put someone in their place that day I don't care"

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Yeah people seem to have issues with everything. Our wedding is in two months, and in April I sent FH family information to the hotel we will be staying at the night of the wedding in case anyone also wanted to stay I would block out the rooms. No one answered... now a few weeks ago I sent out a second text this time with more options $$$ wise and how far they were from the venue. I got some responses. His mother then asks me to tell her how much it is and if there is a discount because of blocking rooms. I told her I didn't block anything because 3 months ago no one responded. She then proceeded to tell me how expensive the hotels were...

Another off the top of my head. My mother rented out a suite for me and my bridesmaid to stay at the night before the wedding and so we could all get ready together the next morning. Two of my bridesmaid ( FH sister and FH sister in law) have kids, which is fine I told them and one of my best friends who also has kids that my mom booked us the room and for them to stay. But that there wouldn't be much room for the kids and that morning I wouldn't really want kids there while I was getting ready. Apparently this was an issue with Sister in law mind you she has 3 kids .. all under 12...

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That is so close I'm excited for you!

I don't know about nastier but I'm definitely more on edge and snap a little easier. Like tonight, I snapped at FH because he didn't push the pan more to the center of the oven. Thank God he's so laid back because I feel like it's gonna get worse as we get closer to the wedding.

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I feel you. I remember being so frustrated and angry all the time because of these kinds of things. They were very real and very big (and usually pretty darn rude legitimately) and they all drove me NUTTY.

I will say, something to look forward to. Once the wedding happened - I couldn't have cared less about my mom's nasty comments about my father or the number of people who clearly did not understand RSVPing. I was happy I was more flexible than I wanted to be on many of the issues I encountered when it was all said and done. It was honestly something that instantly stopped bothering me.

I was SO glad that my cousins who had RSVPd each with two friends and I told them nope, not at all did not tell me they were bringing my one cousin's newly pregnant girl (they weren't dating when I sent out invitations). I was walking down the aisle when I saw her. On the way out I yelled to the coordinator and it was fixed. If they had told me before I would had flipped... BUT they didn't and it honestly turned out just fine. These things will melt away when all is said and done and you will be back to normal.

I honestly felt normal the instant I woke up the next day. Felt happier and relieved. We both were back to "normal" - how we were before the few months before the wedding. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

View Quoted Comment Ok, I had to laugh at this one, we are 13 days out, and last night I snapped at my poor FH because I messed up on the writing on our welcome sign, then told him I hated all the songs on our DJ playlist ( which I dont) he’s so super laid back too, so he just started cleaning the house, at 1 AM!!!!
I will be making a nice dinner for him tonight. 🤦‍♀️👰