Getting overwhelmed by everyone asking me about canceling/postponing

I had 2 people ask me this the other day and my wedding is in December🙄 I understand it, but cmon people, we have months to go. I kindly replied with “Nope, not postponed or canceled yet. We still have months to go. When and if we make a decision to postpone, we will reach out!!”😊

I'm so sorry this is such an overwhelming time for you right now. If I were in your shoes, and based on how they phase their opinions or advice, I'd have a couple of standard(ish) responses to 1) keep your communication streamlined so.the details are shared as much or as little as you and your fiance want and 2) give yourself some space to think and breathe.


"Thank you for your concern! We're currently observing the regulations and changes that are occurring daily in our country and county/city etc. We are closely monitoring the ever changing situation and will make updates and decisions with everyone's health and safety as priority. As we move towards the months ahead, please look for updates from me and (fiance) via (text, email, website). Thank you for being such a special part of our relationship and we can't wait to celebrate our love with you! We promise to keep you informed and connected. Stay well and we love you, (your names)"
If you have a website, I'd direct folks there to keep them updated in 1 place as best as possible.

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Thank you so much for the advice – I just added an update to our website now. I think having a place to direct people to will take some of the pressure off of me/stop people from constantly texting me for updates.

Girl I just want you to know you are HEARD! I could have written this exact post right down to your last paragraph about wanting an in-person wedding, not eloping, not a virtual wedding. I feel you 100%. I haven't had as many people ask as you have but I did have three all in the same week. A month ago I put a really comprehensive post on our website with a TON of useful information, way more than I could convey in a text message, and people STILL have been texting me to ask. I know they mean well, bless their hearts, but a. That's why there's a website, and b. Don't you think that if you're asking, other people on their guest list are too, and that might be painful for a bride/groom to have to field multiple texts like that?? Especially 5 months away??

Just stay strong and vent to us here!!

I had someone in the fam suggesting we should have a back but our wedding is January 2021 -_-
Honestly I would ignore the comments and just continue to plan as normal as you can , things are changing everyday and it is still far out like you said and if anything choose a different u shouldn’t have to have a zoom if you don’t want to keep your head up and try to ignore the comments

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Uuugh honestly thank you so much for saying this!! It's so frustrating, and it makes me feel better to know that I'm not dealing with it alone. Venting helps!

Heey!! Wedding Date Twins && Im In VA As Well. Honestly Just Tell These People That You're holding Off On Making Any Major Decisions Because It's Too Early To Decide Right Now, And That You Will Let Them Know What's Going On When The Time Comes. I Try To Ignore Them The Most I Can, We Do Not Need Any Added Stress ONLY POSITIVITY Right Now! Hang In There

I am in the same boat as you! Our wedding is October 3, 2020.

I work in healthcare and keep hearing mixed thoughts on when this will all be better from various doctors and other coworkers of mine. Some of them are being SO negative saying that we will have to live like this forever, which is not realistically true!

I have had many, many people ask me the same things. It is getting hard to stay positive with everyone bombarding me with it.

However, my bridesmaids have been AMAZING and have kept me positive by making some plans for my bachelorette party (obviously with the understanding that this will need to be re-assessed closer to then).

I have been saying things like "it is still 5 months away and so much can change between now and then" or "we will be re-assessing closer to the wedding, but will proceed as planned for now."

Hey! I am also 10/17/20 and am also in VA! I 100% relate to your post, and feel so similarly. Everything is just so unknown and it feels so stressful to be pushed toward a decision right now when everything is constantly changing! My planner is saying the same- don’t make a decision until August. It definitely feels strange trying to move forward with the planning though. I do not want a virtual wedding either at all, so it is tough thinking about the spring 2021 dates getting filled. But I am still am trying to be optimistic for October and think things will have to have progressed by then!

Hey! I am getting married in VA on 8/1. Or at least we are planning to. We started getting questions and pressure to postpone a year back in early April from FH's family and I eventually lost it privately and then stopped talking about the wedding with them altogether. They were being pushy and rude in my opinion. I just try to avoid conversation with them about it. We'll make the call later on but I would hate to postpone and having 8/1 end up being okay. We've already paid for everything and it was a pretty hefty price tag. With friends, I just say it's a heavy and sensitive topic. I also added something to our wedding website that says, "We will be able to provide more updates as we learn more about the state of COVID-19 in Virginia and across the United States. We thank you in advance your patience, understanding, and sensitivity as we navigate this difficult situation. We will update this space when we have more information." We have only gotten questions from FH's immediate family and no one else so it seems like the website message is working. I'd suggest that. Good luck!

My parents were sensitive about it, but kept mentioning it. I ended up postponing from June to December. So far no one has badgered me about my new date. I'd just say that you are aware of the situation, and will ultimately do what you feel is right.