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Jasmine
Devoted May 2021

Getting overwhelmed

Jasmine, on February 7, 2021 at 5:52 PM Posted in Planning 0 10
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Hi I’m just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to stay on budget and plan the best so you don’t get anxious. Every time that I get into planning for the wedding I start to think of all the things that I have to do on top of the wedding and I feel a lot of anxiety. I also have just had a lot of things happen in the past two months. My fiancé lost his job and got a new one. I had to change jobs, Which meant that my vacation time for the wedding that I had saved just went up in smoke. Then last week my fiancé tested positive for Covid, so we have been quarantine. That was perfect timing since I had only been at my new job for 2 days! I’m trying to stay positive and just plan but I feel like I have no control over this wedding or my life lol. We have 103 days til wedding . 2 bridesmaids haven’t ordered their dresses, all the groomsmen haven’t gotten measured yet. I still need to find chair rentals, a hair stylist, and finish making the boutonnieres, bouquets, and corsages. Not to mention I still have school, work, kids, and home to take care of. Sometimes I get so anxious I’m just nauseous and can barely eat. I swear when I got engaged I said I was not going to stress over this wedding but....tenor.gif

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Latest activity by Mrs. Spring, on February 8, 2021 at 11:00 AM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Does the venue have chairs? Many have available at no charge. Do you have anyone to help you with florals? Take a look at thumbtack.com for a florist and hairdresser.
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    They do not have chairs sadly. I already brought all the materials to make them myself, I just have to set the time out for it. My time is spread thin.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    A local party rental business will carry them. Look on Yelp.
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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
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    Do you think any of your immediate family or bridal party would be willing to help you manage any of your leftover tasks before the big day? I know that everyone is probably busy and has their own things going on, but it could help a lot to have some extra hands. Maybe try to even make a girls night out of it by ordering in some food and having some wine or something so it doesn’t feel like a chore to everyone.
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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
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    My response is more so in regards to corsages and boutonnières obviously. But you could still ask your bridesmaids if they can help price search local chair rental services or hairstylists
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    That’s a good idea, maybe on a weekend when everyone isn’t super busy
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  • V
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    As long as the bridesmaids and groomsmen have their attire for the wedding then there is no need to stress. The best man in our wedding went literally one month before the wedding to get measured. It really doesn't take that long for guys to get measured. As for the girls, if you are that worried then I would tell them they have until X date to get their dress ordered by. Depending on where they are getting their dresses it might only take a few weeks for them to get their dresses.

    I would focus on getting chair rentals and a hair stylist booked then finish making your boutonnieres, bouquets and corsages. I think chairs should be your number one priority otherwise your guests will have nowhere to sit. Once you have the chair rentals booked, then focus on a hair stylist. I can tell you I helped my sister-in-law find a hair stylist and makeup artist a month before her wedding because it completely slipped her mind. It wasn't easy, but half of us went one place and the other half went to another salon. Also when your fiancé is feeling better maybe you could enlist in his help with finding a place to rent chairs or maybe your venue can recommend a place to get them.

    Can you get help with making the boutonnieres, bouquets and corsages? Maybe invites friends over for a pizza party and work on making them. If you really don't have time, then I would just order ones from a local florist.

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  • Katie
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    I found myself running from one unfinished task to the next and I totally get it - so stressful! I suggest taking one task to focus on and only move past once it completed. I had a break through once I did it that way 😁 Good luck and hope your fiancé recovers quickly ❤️
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    I totally understand! I’m 55 days out & my fiancé still hasn’t told me who his other 2 groomsmen are going to be & they still need to order their attire! His son (who’s 21) complained to my fiancé & my FMIL about a comment I said about his girlfriend (I congratulated her for getting into ultrasound tech school, said the serving job she got will allow her the flexibility to go to school- that she doesn’t want to be a server for the rest of her life)- now the relationship I’ve established with his mom is strained. The kicker is one of my bridesmaids had breast cancer & had a double mastectomy- we just found out that her cancer is back, in her lungs & is inoperable. I’m done with his family’s petty BS. I’ve decided to distance myself from them for my own sanity.
    As far as planning, I use The Knot’s planning checklist- helps keep me on track.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    In order for my fiancé and I to stay within budget and not get stressed, cancelled our wedding and decided to elope instead.
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