Gift for a 3rd marriage?

Why would you need to send her $150 cash? That seems a little high if you don't have a lot of spare resources. Whatever limit you had for the gift card, you can easily send in a nice card for her. I've had extend family send me anywhere from $50-300! I certainly didn't scoff at the $50.

I'm also sure she'll understand especially with the baby shower too.

Don't break your budget for a wedding gift, whether this is her first wedding or her third. At this point she should realize people won't be getting her gifts, she shouldn't expect a bridal shower, etc. I would do a card and a restaurant gift card, call it a date night gift if you have the funds. A baby shower gift would be thoughtful but again, no need to break your budget, babies always need onesies.

Set a reasonable amount that fits your budget. If she has a registry then order off it, if she does not have a registry then give her cash in a card.
If you give a gift at the shower you do not need a gift at the wedding.

As for the baby shower just split your budget into 3rds. Put 2/3 to the wedding and 1/3 the baby.

It's okay if you can't give that much! I'm sure she'd appreciate some type of gift card or something for the baby

Every guest should give as much or as little as they can, based on their financial circumstances.
Whether it’s bride’s 1st or 21st wedding, or whether she is pregnant or not, doesn’t have anything to do with it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t think she should be expecting so many expensive gifts for her third marriage. I would just buy some clothes, toys, and blanket for the baby if I were you.

Gift what you can afford. For my brothers second marriage I gifted them 40, and even that was hard. I had just had back surgery and was out of work so money was tight. They were fine with it.

I probably wouldnt give her cash, just because she specifically asked for it. You get what you get. Be grateful.

If $150 is not possible for you to give so you can give her $000.(LOL)

Definitely get a baby shower gift. But you have to keep in mind those two events are separate. I agree she probably shouldn't be registering for gifts for a 3rd marriage, no offense. That's typically the same reason people don't have baby showers after the first child; it's called a "sprinkle" and usually doesn't involve gifts if they have a party. A $50 gift card to a restaurant or even a store would suffice. You don't have to give cash if you don't want to!

Weird situation. I wasn't aware people had multiple weddings as like an anniversary event other than one vow renewal. I don't think she should expect gifts at all either.... I wouldn't give her cash. Babyshower gift is understandable... but a third wedding gift? Get her what you want, something small if you feel obligated.

You should never give more than you can afford to give. Gift her the amount your heart sees fit and that you can afford.

It is up to you, the giver, to decide what to give for a gift. You asked about restaurants, and it was not good manners for her to ask for cash instead. Give her what you want to, in an amount you can afford to give. Same with a baby gift. Do not be pushed into changing gifts. Also, although each time you marry, people hope it will last and wish the couple the best, in fact, part of the reason wedding gifts are bigger than most any occasion gift, for a first wedding, with some people getting a second shower gift as well, is because people are trying to give their loved one a good start in setting up a home. When they marry someone else a few years later, the marriage may be different, but all possessions we're not disposed of. For that reason, not because the couple is not worthy, second and third gifts are usually far smaller than first weddings, and "sides will not be equal in gifts. That is, friends and family of a groom on his 3rd or 4th wedding will give far less than those of the bride who is marrying for the first time. Because it will be assumed he carried over some possessions, some share of the "start you out" gifts from that first marriage. That is part of the tradition of wedding gifts being major ones, and durable items, largely lost with people getting gifts of money, honeymoon experiences, etc. But if you gave a major gift at the first wedding, you have done your best once with a start in life gift, and should not feel badly if she has nothing left of her gifts from her first or second weddings. That is on her. You do now, a gift according to your closeness, your budget, and the fact that your gift says you wish them well, but it need not be a size of one given for a first start in building a home. She is past that. Baby clothing that is frequently washed, and small items, rarely hold over one baby to the next, and are much needed. If you know she has crib, changing table, other big things, you can comfortably give her small items that need to be renewed and are a drain on the budget for new parents,not big items.

Give what you are willing and able. Personally, I would not gift $150 for a third marriage. Probably a gift card with a smaller amount.