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Beginner August 2019

Gift for the bride at a bachelorette?

Cait, on June 29, 2020 at 7:11 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 14
Hi everyone- I am organizing an epic bachelorette weekend (or as epic as Covid will allow) with gift bags for all the bridesmaid and the bride of course, the matching t shirts and personalized tumblers and every basic bachelorette thing I can think of. There is so much cute stuff available I could go crazy and spend a million dollars. NOW one of the bridesmaids brings up that at HER bachelorette party, her BMs chipped in to give her an expensive gift and she thinks we should do the same. I’m a little worried about asking the girls to fork over more money because I know we are all spending a lot to rent a house and a boat and have a fun party... a group gift hasn’t even crossed my mind. Not just looking for people to agree with me here but— do you think this is common etiquette? I never had a Bach party of my own and don’t remember doing that for others. What do you think??

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Latest activity by MrsD, on June 30, 2020 at 12:36 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think you need to give her a gift. i think you guys paying for the bach party and her portion is plenty

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    I agree with this. Just cover the expenses of the party. Gifts are optional.

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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    The party IS the gift (which is why brides shouldn't tell people to throw them a party; parties are expensive and time consuming to host). I would say thanks, but no thanks to that bridesmaid. She can bring a gift if she likes; she can even ask the other participants if they want to go in on it. But you are absolutely in the right to say you are sticking with what you already have planned.

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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated July 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    Just came home from my own bachelorette party this weekend and I can say a big gift is definitely NOT necessary. As others have said, the party itself is a gift especially if you’re getting the cute matching shirts and stuff. I got spoiled all weekend and honestly would have felt uncomfortable if there was an additional gift on top of the party!
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    I wasn't given a gift from my girls nor have I ever been to a bachelorette where that was the case. I don't see the harm in bringing it up to the group as a possible suggestion, but it is definitely not necessary nor would I think even expected.
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  • D
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    No, I think it’s totally unnecessary. It sounds like you’re having a huge bash and the bride will appreciate that so much more. There’s no need to get an expensive gift on top of it. If the other bridesmaids truly want to do that I would suggest that you save it for the wedding day
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  • C
    Beginner August 2019
    Cait ·
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    Thanks all!!! I feel validated. With the shower 3 weeks after the bachelorette party, I think I will focus the spending on making the party itself the best it can be and politely decline the unsolicited suggestion!! 💕💕
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    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    Gifts aren’t needed at Bach.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Not a thing. The party was my gift. After all they did for it, if my girls had got me a separate gift I would’ve frankly felt uncomfortable, like this is too much and now I feel like I have to repay you immediately.
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    No it's optional in my opinion. My bachaloreete event my MOH paid for the venue however each person brought their own gifts.
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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
    Sarah ·
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    I think the bachelorette party IS the gift? I’d be beside myself (in a bad way) if my girls did that!
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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Yes! Exactly! I even tried to pay my share of bachelorette.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I have never done a large group gift, but we have done small individual gifts before. Personally, I am not a fan of that. I agree with you, if you are already spending a lot of money for the bachelorette party, you shouldn't have to spend more money on a gift. You could always poll the other girls attending (privately) and see what they think?

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I would tell the bridesmaid who suggested it to send a group text to everyone going and ask who is interested. At my bachelorette, a few of the girls brought me presents so they individually bought things and wouldn't want to pay for another group present. I didn't expect any presents at mine though. You could also do something sweet, like letters to the bride from everyone!

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