Gifts and honeymoon

I would not donate, nor will many of an over30 crowd of guests because the honeymoon is not something you ask other to pay for in any capacity.

It’s a very divisive topic across generations. While your younger guests will probably think nothing of it, older generations tend to find it offensive and in poor taste. I would just be prepared for a variety of reactions and to still receive physical gifts from guests who choose the traditional route.

As Stacey said, many people are against them. Just don't register or make a small registry, and people will get the hint. Most people give cash or a check at weddings anyway. We got 1 physical gift at our wedding. Everyone else out cash or checks in a card.

That os generally considered very rude. If anyone asks you, or your family, what you would like, it is fine to tell them, including that you are saving money for a particular thing. Polite. Of you just tell people, or write it on invitations, that is considered rude because you are asking for gifts that have not been offered.

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We're doing a cash fund using Zola. It isn't for the honeymoon, but it's still a cash fund!

I think it's perfectly okay. The honeymoon is very important.

We had a honeymoon fund as part of our registry. We broke it up into pieces and labeled them things like, "romantic dinner" or "theme park tickets", so people could feel they were gifting us an experience.
It's quite normal, now, as people get married later. Some people gave us money that way, some people just dropped cards in the box at the wedding.

I know a couple that added a honeymoon fund onto their Zola registry. Like Rebecca above did, this couple also split theirs up so it wasn't just one fund with a large amount on the gift listing. I will say that it depends on the group of people you are inviting and who will be viewing your registry. Some people will view that with traditional registry gifts as 'fishing for gifts', but other people understand that if it's something you both want help with, then they will contribute.

We ended up giving them one smaller gift off of their registry, and contributed some money towards the honeymoon fund.

I had a honeymoon fund. and honestly i don't see anything wrong with them. i divided mine up into activities people can purchase or gift money towards. and people were more inclined to that than to just giving me money in the honeymoon fund.

but i will say that they do take a percentage fee so it is worth it if you didn't do the honeymoon fund

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This is the only way I personally like to see it done, I feel it's much more tasteful. I had a friend who did this and I was so happy to contribute to an experience (helicopter tour) rather than another piece of flatware they'll never use. HOWEVER, I find just a "honeymoon fund" to be pretty tacky. I understand there isn't a flat out difference, but I think asking for a specific experience is more similar to asking for a gift where the fund comes off as a bit cash-grabby (IMO).

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View Quoted Comment Very good idea did you do as a registry or how did you do that

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View Quoted Comment We used the Knot, they have a registry for it.

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