Girl Code

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If that is not a problem for you then there is no problem. Thanks for sharing.

I think that is something you should discuss with her. She obviously has moved on and is happy in her own life. I don't see someone being that selfish not allowing your possible happiness because they used to be involved with someone. I say talk with her and go for it! don't sacrifice your happiness for someone else (especially when that someone else is already happily married)

View Quoted Comment I would definitely talk to my friend first before making a decision.

View Quoted Comment If they broke up, unhappily, a week or a couple months before, I can understand giving the friend a heads up. Especially if you are part of a tight circle of friends, and they will run into you as a couple, over and over, at every party or special occasion, in restaurants and theatres and on the street. You do not pick at a still open wound.
But I have heard this "Girl Code" stuff , usually in anger, no months, even 2-4 years after people broke up. The ex has a problem, if they are holding on that long, to someone who clearly does not want to be with them. . Like people who think no one they know should marry for 9 months before or after their own wedding, because all possible attention in that time should belong to them. Serious ego problem, in both cases, not a friend dating ex problem and not someone stealing your attention.