Girls/guys Separate Weekend Trips

I see no problem with you having a girls weekend wherever you want to have it. I went on girls trips when I was married as he didn't want to go. Enjoy yourself.

I think its to each their own, I would not be going on a trip like that without my fiancé.

I definitely hear you on wanting to experience certain things with your husband first, but I also think it's very healthy to get away with the girls once in a while. So maybe plan a trip with them to somewhere you feel less strongly about wanting to see with your husband.

PS- so jealous you live in EU and can just country-hop around like that! I did a week in London a few years ago and during that time, we hopped over to Amsterdam for just one night and then went back to London. It was stupid easy and cheap to do, so I'd definitely be taking advantage of that if I lived there.

I think girl's trips are perfectly fine and it can be important to have some activities that do not revolve around your husband. I would set some ground rules before planning or booking these trips though:

1. Make sure that the dates do not conflict with any plans you and FH have.

2. Make sure that the trip is financially feasible and will not be taking funds that you and FH have earmarked for something else.

3. If you and FH have been talking about planning a trip someplace together or you know the trip is one that the other person wants to go on you discuss it before booking. For example, you want to go to Oktoberfest with FH, and I'm sure he knows this, it would be unkind for him to book a trip with friends there but, he should be able to suggest a change in plans and have a boy's getaway to somewhere else instead.

Go on this girl's getaway trip and have fun. I went on a girl's trip a couple of years ago and when I returned FH told me how much he missed me and realized he wanted me to spend the rest of my life with him. 2 weeks later his house was up for sale, we were moving in together and purchasing our own home. Sometimes the old adage is true and absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Some people like it, some people don't. It's totally personal preference.

I think they're great for both of you. A little me time or time with friends is a good thing!!!

I could never imagine not going on girls trips or not allowing my husband to go on guy trips. I have a close group of girlfriends and we love taking long weekend trips together. I also go on trips with my mom. FH and I do *a lot* together, but I couldn't imagine having to do everything with him or not having my own life.

I'm also super jealous that you live in Europe and can travel so easily!!

Why don't you and your husband talk about committing to a yearly trip for the two of you, and then any other trips (guys or girls or both) are additional to the annual trip you take together? That way you guys always have something special planned for the two of you, and if there's somewhere new you've been dying to go you can explore it together!

You're very welcome! If this is your main concern I'd talk to your FH now (rather than at the time of the trip) and make plans to do this together. This way you will both have something to plan and look forward to. If/when his friend's mention going on this trip he can let them know that he already has plans to go with you but, would like to do a guy's weekend away somewhere else. If you don't bring up the idea of the trip until FH already has plan's to go away with the guys then I can see him being caught in the middle if he has already agreed to go with them.

100% in favor of girl only trips and guy only trips. My hubby has a hunting cabin and he goes there alone, goes there with a buddy - I help him pack!! I am welcome there as well, obviously. I went to Glacier Nat'l Park solo summer of 2016 and he helped me pack my backpack. I am planning a Vegas trip this April w/ a friend......so yay to separate vacations!!!

I wish I could take more trips with just girls! Thats why my bachelorette party will be so special. I love having girl time! It's super healthy to spend time apart. FH and I did long distance for a year and it was hard, but nice to have time apart sometimes!

I'm 100% for separate trips occasionally. Maybe you'd feel better if you two talked about the next trip you wanted to take together and semi planned it? My FH doesn't love travel but I do. We've agreed that we'll vacation together but I'm also good to go on separate trips with my friends as they'll be more adventurous and he won't have to do that! win win lol.

What Happy Hedgie said.

I would totally go!