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Devoted November 2018

Giving myself away?

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yasmeen, on September 11, 2018 at 5:27 PM

I was reading about some father of the bride stuff and I came across this woman who was walked down the aisle but gave herself away. My father is coming to my wedding but he is not walking me down because I love him but we don't get along. My baby brother (he's 20 but still my baby) is walking me down but I'm wondering if I really need to be "given" away.
I'm not sure how everyone else fh did it but mine actually asked my mom's permission and my step dads before he passed to even ask to marry me. Idk I mean I've moved to America by myself when I was 17 and haven't come back home since (besides visits), we've been together almost 5 years and have a beautiful toddler running around and keeping us busy, do I really need to be given away when I've already given myself?

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on September 12, 2018 at 1:57 AM
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This tradition could be sweet if you’re close to your dad & moving from your parents’ home into your martial home. At 40+ this didn’t apply to me. My hubby & I walked the aisle together! Comforting & even more pics as we nervously got ready just outside guests’ view. Loved it.
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Dedicated November 2018
Glam Geek · on September 12, 2018 at 2:08 AM
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Thank you. Biggest hugs and condolences to you too. Oh I know Guardians of the Galaxy well (I'm a huge nerd too of various things). That sounds similar to what my Daddy would say about my FH actually. My FH actually asked my Mum for permission last year, so similar to you. Sounds like we both had amazing Daddys (since your step-Dad sounds so amazing, and as a saying goes - anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad/Daddy).
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Devoted November 2018
yasmeen · on September 12, 2018 at 2:10 AM
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That sounds so sweet! This would work out because I am very close to my family besides my father and they looove my fh.
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Kimberly&Kayla · on September 12, 2018 at 2:18 AM
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Honestly, I don't think it should matter. As for myself, my father was never in the photo. So I am having my mother walk me down the aisle
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Dedicated September 2018
Angela · on September 12, 2018 at 11:46 AM
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This is my opinion and I don't think it's best for everyone and I don't judge anyone else's choice.
I just had my wedding and I was not given away. I am a strong woman and I believe that I am not someone's property to be given and received like such, my husband agreed... though jokes were made about dowries and such, haha. I walked myself down the aisle and I loved it. My husband said that everyone was asking when they needed to stand and how the heck would it work without me being given away and he responded "you get to trust", haha. It went off without a hitch.
Speak to your officiant and they can edit the ceremony to not include the giving away. If this is something you feel strongly about make the ceremony fit you and your FH, don't mold yourselves to the ceremony. We walked away from the ceremony and everyone said that it was the perfect fit for who my husband and I are. It was wonderful and I encourage you to customize your ceremony to fit the two of you.
PS I love that your brother is walking you down the aisle
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JustKidding · on September 12, 2018 at 2:28 PM
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I walked myself.

I do not speak to my family. Nor did I ever walk someone to walk me. I think it was such a powerful moment to walk myself down that aisle.
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