Gofundme for Wedding Registry?

If you feel like you need to explain to people that you're hoping for cash, maybe start a honeymoon fund or something similar! I think guests would be more understanding that way. 😊

View Quoted Comment Um, but that's what the couple wanted.... If you go to a restaurant and order a Coke, but instead got a diet Coke and your server response was "Well I don't like the idea giving you a Coke" would you like that? The answer would be no. People want what they want. Period. No one asked what you wanted.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting cash over gifts, but a Go Fund Me is completely inappropriate.

Like others have said, just don’t register or do a small registry. Every wedding I’ve been to in my life, most people give cash or checks as gifts anyway. I rarely see physical gifts at weddings.

Asking for money totally rubs me the wrong way. I’d probably still give a check if a couple asked for money, but I’d give some major side eye.

Don’t do this. I think most people want cash. We did two registries because I know that some people can stretch their gift a little further that way a $30 waffle maker looks ‘better’ than a check for $30.

We had 117 guests and still received thousands of dollars and more gifts then we have room for. Many people did both!

Mmm I think it is not the same. You go to a restaurant, and pay for a service. You should get what you ordered . Why if I ask for red wine, the server gonna bring me white wine? And he will say: "I don't like the idea giving you red wine"
A wedding it is a social event, where you got invited. So no point
There is nothing wrong with wanting money over gifts. But let people make the decision on their own. I think it is inappropriate, and poor etiquette send somebody a wedding invitation, saying I want money. (That was my case)
If you don't do registration, I'll tell that you prefer money. Which is completely fine. But please don't ask for it.

View Quoted Comment We are doing a small registry and s honeymoon fund. A lot of people prefer giving gifts. They are the ones spending money on us. So they should choose how they spend there money on something for us.

To me, it does say "hey we want cash". I'd probably just not register at all, people will get that you want money.

What to do if wedding was set back due to Corona virus. Should I leave my message that is already up along with our registry, ( I did add we love to accept whatever lays on your heart. I did accepting gifts or Monetary gifts

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You should start your own thread rather than adding on to this two-year-old one.

View Quoted Comment Exactly. No need to be judgey. If someone is going to decline an invite to my wedding because I’m being honest and asking for what I need/want (ie the point of a registry), then I probably don’t want them there anyway.

View Quoted Comment I mean, as the couple, you would be the ones in the scenario asking for the red wine and the couple is paying for this event (often more than is affordable). The guests are not the restaurant goers in the case.

View Quoted Comment This makes me wonder if you cannot afford your wedding and you're hoping cash gifts will offset this. Thus, you feel the need to specify, "cash gifts". However, your guests don't have to gift you at all. Gifts are not an entry admission to your show. Hosting a wedding reception is thanking your guests for witnessing your marriage ceremony. If you don't care about that, then maybe an elopement is more appropriate for you.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate the unsolicited advice.