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Maggy
Super December 2016

Going out the night before the wedding

Maggy, on October 10, 2016 at 11:30 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 42

Since all of our friends are scattered around the country, FH and I won't be having Bach parties. We were thinking of meeting up at an area with several bars with the friends we've invited once everyone is in town, which would end up being the night before the wedding. We have a 10 am ceremony. Is this just a crazy idea? I would really like to be able to spend a little more time with our friends but I don't want people to be too hungover or tired at the wedding. Has anyone done this before, and if so would you recommend it?

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Latest activity by Laura, on October 11, 2016 at 4:15 PM
  • Phylicia
    Super April 2017
    Phylicia ·
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    My cousins wedding, his wife had her family in from Austria, and friends/family of his from all over the Place... they rented out a suite at the hotel nearest their venue and ordered a bunch Of pizzas and had a crap ton of snacks and drinks.. we had so much fun. We didn't stay up late. But it was nice to have a huge gathering place to hang out and not have to really worry about staying out and anybody getting to crazy. So that's an idea..

    ETA:: because my phone adds crap in my sentences.... sorry ahead of time for any random words you might find before me!

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
    The Trap Selena ·
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    I wouldn't do it. Maybe you can have an after party after your reception?

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  • kiandra
    Master October 2016
    kiandra ·
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    I personally wouldn't risk it. I thought about going out that Friday before but now that I've found out hair and makeup is at 7am ummmmmm yea no LOL

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  • Ashley
    Super November 2016
    Ashley ·
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    Don't do it. Once the drinks start flowing and people loosen up it never ends early. You don't want huge bags under your eyes because you are hung over and only got a couple hours sleep. I'm having an 11am ceremony and have to start makeup with all of my BM at 6am. I plan on being asleep by 8pm the latest.

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  • Maggy
    Super December 2016
    Maggy ·
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    The bars close at midnight so we couldn't be out super late, but it might still be too late. I like the idea of a hotel room though!

    @Keri, I would try that but a lot of our friends are going straight from the wedding to the airport because it's a Sunday. I'll see how many will still be in town though, that might be easier overall.

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  • NovemberWedding
    Savvy November 2016
    NovemberWedding ·
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    For whatever it's worth, we are planning to do this the night before our Sunday wedding, as we are in the same boat--friends are leaving the wedding as soon as it's finished to fly home. The night before, we are going to meet friends around 8 or so and I am planning to leave by 10 or 10:30. I figure that it's worth being a little tired to have some time with friends that I haven't seen in ages.

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  • Private_User832
    Master August 2017
    Private_User832 ·
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    I wouldn't do that. If you want to spend time with them just don't involve alcohol and call it an early night

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  • Flying
    Master May 2017
    Flying ·
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    That seems like a big risk.

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  • Amanda J.
    Master March 2016
    Amanda J. ·
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    I wouldn't because I wouldn't want to be exhausted or have puffy eyes.

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  • Sangele
    Master April 2016
    Sangele ·
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    I did this but my ceremony wasn't until 5pm the next day. Since your ceremony starts early, I would not recommend this.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    Bad idea. The last thing I would want to be is hung over at my ceremony. Spent to much time planning this shit.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP July 2016
    Jennifer ·
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    Our bach/bachelorette parties were the night before. I went zip lining, out to dinner and then drinking at home. DH went paintball, dinner and then bar hopping. I was so worried he was going to be hungover as hell for the wedding. And he was a bit hungover.... Luckily he was also crying, so it hid well... but Its a risk. One of our friends, who officiated our wedding, broke his foot at paintball... so its a risk.

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  • J
    Dedicated October 2017
    Jessica ·
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    My advice would be do it early like do a dinner and a few drinks and call it an early night just to be safe. I personally wouldn't be able to do that because I think a few of my friends would be like oh yeah I'll be in bed by 10 and they'd be sending me texts at 2am telling me how much they love me lol so that's a tough one

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  • Wendy
    Expert October 2016
    Wendy ·
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    I wouldn't do it. It was suggested as an idea for me too but I just will have too many other things on my mind that I don't even think I would enjoy it.

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  • F
    Devoted June 2017
    FutureMrs.Gustafson ·
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    I wouldn't risk it. Many times in college I met up with friends the night before even just a simple lecture, and even though we were going to call it an early night because we all had classes the next morning, it's amazing what "mob mentality " can influence and then 3+ drinks more than you meant to turns into 2 am and a rough morning. Your wedding is more important than that. Don't do it. Maybe do something in the afternoon instead?

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  • kimmyinjapan
    VIP September 2016
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    Do. not. recommend. go to bed early. you'll be so grateful.

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  • Almost Mrs. Wright
    Super September 2016
    Almost Mrs. Wright ·
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    What time do you plan on beginning prep for the wedding. This may dictate if you want to go out the night before. I'm assuming you are getting started around 6ish for hair/ makeup? This may be off but You may want to backwards plan to decide if it's wise to go out the night before.

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  • FutureMrsWhitman
    Expert December 2016
    FutureMrsWhitman ·
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    Back about 15 years ago, my cousin got married and the groom and groomsman went out the night before the wedding. On their way out of the bar, they got jumped by a group of strangers. One groomsman had his arm in a sling the next day, one had a black eye, a bunch had scrapesome on their faces. Not worth it. Lol

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  • FutureSeñoraR
    Super July 2017
    FutureSeñoraR ·
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    Personally i wouldnt do it. I already told my FMIL that I plan on heading out of the rehearsal dinner once dinner is over and we passed out our gifts. she seemed a little upset but I want to make sure I rest as much as I can. and our ceremony isnt until 230! I think spending time together at the wedding or the next day is probably a better choice.

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  • Jessica
    Expert September 2017
    Jessica ·
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    Tough spot. I totally get wanting to spend time with friends. But maybe just go to dinner or something and call it an early night?

    Plus if you drink night before your wedding, you might not wake up looking as fresh as you'd prefer. Even just a couple drinks can have an effect on your face the next day

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