Good friend stopped talking to me after my wedding

It depends, do you want to continue the friendship or not? Instead of getting angry and trying to retaliate, listen to what she has to say and reflect on your behavior. Were you a good friend during wedding planning? Did you still check in on her and ask about her life? Did you make sure to have conversations with her that didn't involve wedding talk?

View Quoted Comment Yes, I did a very small wedding and made sure she was financial stable or didn't have to worry about spending a lot. I would still call her and talk about other stuff besides my wedding. I always made sure to ask stuff about her but to her she felt it wasnt enough.

View Quoted Comment Even when I tried to get together just to hang out, no wedding stuff she wouldn't want to our respond back the next day say she was busy. Even after the wedding she would always ditch and say she had other plans. Then came back and said she didn't want to hang out because she doesn't like my husband for nothing he has done wrong? I personally think it is jealously.

Well hold on. Don’t make decisions when you’re angry like this, it’s how we make mistakes. She said you haven’t been a good friend before the wedding. Think about if she has a point. How were you in the months of wedding planning? Did you still hang out? Listen to her problem and celebrate her accomplishments? Or did you only want to talk about your wedding?
Weddings bring out the worst in people, even the best of people. People can feel like all you care about is your wedding and even if that’s not true, it’s a tight line to walk as a bride. Your wedding sometimes has to take a backseat some days to your loved ones, even with deadlines approaching. What did she even say about your husband? Does she not approve? There’s a LOT of factors here to think about.

I think you both handled it poorly and I would try to find out WHY she feels that way.

I wouldn’t reach out to her again. I know that you said that she’s ur good friend, but I don’t agree w/ ghosting good friends. If a good friend of mine is upset w/ me, then they will come to me & discuss it.
I have 3x friends in my life that I have known for over 20 yrs+ years (1x that I have known for almost my entire life) & this is how we always act towards each other.

View Quoted Comment We have had a discussion before and after the wedding. I did a very small wedding with not much planning as the planner away did it for me. So there wasn't much on her based on the wedding or even myself, it was very stress free. For my husband, he did nothing wrong. She took a joke too seriously as to what she does with everything. He told her she needs to just relax and enjoy her time at the wedding as she was all over people making sure they were taking care of themselves. She took it too seriously.

After your responses, it sounds like it’s just another case of weddings bringing out the worst in people. She felt your wedding was more important than your friendship even though you made a good effort to be a friend. People can become needy or resentful about weddings. All the sudden your usual amount of time you talk is not enough, all the attention you get as a bride makes them uncomfortable. It’s a bizarre thing for sure.
I think you two need to sit down for coffee/lunch and have a long talk. Maybe you can reach an understanding. It doesn’t sound like she had a reason to react this way but you also don’t see it from her PoV, maybe there was something you missed. If you value the friendship at all I would get this resolved.
You can start with that you know tempers flared and that you’re sorry for your part but you don’t understand where she’s coming from. You thought the friendship was fine. Would she be willing to meet you at X on day of X to talk?

View Quoted Comment I feel in the same boat. Why would she wait almost a month after to discuss everything. She could of told me right after instead of completely ignoring me when I was reaching out to her not knowing what was wrong.

View Quoted Comment We have reached out and discussed already. She told me why she was ignoring me and mentioned she felt our relationship has been off for a while. I asked her why and she told me I havent been a good friend as I wasnt reaching out which is untrue based on the times I have reached out to hang out or talk. I dont think she understands people have other things that go on in their lives so she felt my time to her wasnt enough as she doesnt work or have other financial aspects to pay for which I do. So I think our lifestyles are completely different and doesnt see that aspect of it.

View Quoted Comment I mention this lightly but has she seen a therapist? She needs to find other ways to fill up her day, adults are busy. I wonder if she sees your husband as another thing that is going to distance your friendship, kind of like highschool besties that get jealous when one of them gets a boyfriend. It’s odd behavior for a grown woman, I honestly feel a little bad for her.

View Quoted Comment Yes you said it exactly! She is a grown women and is just lost in life. So I feel when she sees people advancing in life she gets jealous. I myself and other friends have tried to help her but she is just so afraid advancing in life. It is sad but the more you offer the more she backs down and how much can you do to help someone.

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I agree with this. sometimes weddings really show us who our true friends are.

Ugh, I cannot stand high maintenance friends! Sorry you are dealing with this. A phone works both ways. I’ve had to remind people of this before who have made comments regarding how often I communicate with them. We’re adults, and lives are busy on their own, then add in wedding planning... yikes! A true friend would understand. I have friends that I maybe see once a year, but none of us holds that against each other. We understand we have jobs, and families, and important things going on. I have learned to cut friendships that feel toxic and unsupportive. Maybe give it some space and see if things work out down the line. If not, then the friendship has run its course and you should move on. You don’t owe her, or anyone, anything. Good luck!