Background: my grandma is a very opinionated person. If she doesn’t like something she will let you know about it. She also likes to make most situations about herself, for example, the weekend of my sister’s wedding she planned a family get together to celebrate her 80th birthday, 5 months before her birthday, the night before the wedding (rehearsal dinner was actually 2 nights before the wedding).
My sister lives 6 hours away and she wasn’t able to be very involved with wedding planning (neither was my mother). My cousin is getting married 2 weeks before me and she can’t be involved with that wedding because she doesn’t get along with my cousin’s mother and family. Because I live in the same city as my grandma, I see her more often than the rest of my family. My mom made sure to bring this up early in the wedding planning process, and I told my mom I didn’t want a lot of involvement because her negative attitude will highly influence my wedding planning stress and decision making. Very unnecessary when planning a wedding!!
(sorry, that was a long background story). Anyway, because my sisters and MOH live out of state, I only wanted my mom with me dress shopping, and because I know she didn’t get to go with my cousin, I invited my grandma as well. I found the dress of my dreams. Because I went dress shopping in January, I had gained a little holiday weight and the zipper was *slightly* stubborn. The lady who sold me my dress said that it will fit fine by my wedding in November (and my dad said that it would fit fine after a big poop...sorry haha).
Ever since then my grandma has made several comments about how I won’t fit in my wedding dress if I gain any weight. She makes sure to say them frequently, and has commented on my fiancé’s weight for the 12 years I’ve known him. I’m pretty healthy and active and my fiancé had been losing weight. I’m pretty hurt from these comments as I have been working hard to lose weight anyway.
How do I approach future wedding plans from here on out? She’s not financially involved with the wedding so I feel no obligation to involve her in any more planning, although my dress is currently being held hostage (I mean stored) at her house. Planning with my mom has been difficult since my mom feels obligated to tell her parents when she is coming to town (she lives about an hour and a half away). I’m so hurt from her comments that I don’t even want her at my wedding, but I really want my grandpa to be there so I can’t have one without the other
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