Groom checking up on his ex on wedding day...

I regularly check up on exes/exflings/excrushes/ex-random hot cool guys from high school for no reason other than curiosity. It's kind of odd that it was your wedding night but I wouldn't think too much into it unless he gave you a previous reason to

I would be pissed. But I've also had issues my FH's ex's. I get looking back. The timing does suck. But he chose to marry u even after looking back at what use to be.

Honestly, I think you are over-thinking it. I am FRIENDS with most of my exes on facebook, instagram, etc. I "like" their stuff occasionally and they "like" mine. Other exes I did not end on good terms with, I admit I occasionally will look them up online, really just to be nosy and see what they are up to in life lol. I do this stone-cold sober lol, so I don't think him being drunk has anything to do with it. I am completely loyal to my husband and this does not impact our relationship or his trust in me in any possible way. Now, if he was chatting with her or something- that would raise my eyebrows. But simply looking up pictures she posts? No.

I agree. My ex was the worst person I have ever known. He was scum of scum and I hate that I ever even gave him the time of day but I check on him sometimes because I'm curious. In no way does it mean I want him back and he's definitely not "the one that got away" at all.

ETA: spelling.

*Jeanne. It's literally typed out in front of you.

Assuming you're real, I still think you have trust issues and should have a serious convo with your husband about that. I look up exes sometimes, not the day of my wedding, but it's never because I don't care for my husband. I don't think he's wrong but I don't think you're right.

I think it's fine for people to search their ex's now and then. It's probably just out of curiosity. My bigger concern is that you snooped in his phone...on your wedding night. That sounds like there are some deeper issues there.

I use to look at my FH's phone in the beginning of our relationship. I now realize that it is never okay to do that, especially if I claim to trust him completely. It's overstepping a boundary. Just realize that he is responsible for his own actions, and vice versa. But I agree that it sounds like there could be a bigger issue. Have you found something on his phone before that made you feel like you need to check his phone again?

I think you're overreacting. My husband is Facebook friends with some of his exes because they parted peacefully. There is no harm in looking at a social media page.

O&S said it.

Don't even look or your brain will do some dumb shit.

I would have been upset too.

Great, so this time we were both looking on something on Instagram and I saw he had recently looked her up AGAIN.

He said its because I have been "pressuring" him for us to buy a puppy and I mentioned he gave his ex one. So that made him look her up....

She is married by the way... but is he comparing me to her or something? She has a degree and I dont.

This made me feel kind of sad for you :/ not that it necessarily means he's doing anything wrong. But I understand what you're probably thinking.

Did you guys have these problems before you were married too? Or is it new since the wedding?