So I'm sure all you lovely ladies have met at least one old man in your life with the philosophy of "all women are crazy, they take all their husbands money, control what they're husbands can/can't do, getting married was the worst thing I've ever done, man you better watch out as soon as you get married she will suddenly try to change everything about you" and blah blah blah.....
My groom is 27 and we are the first to get married in our friend group. We've been together 10 years. Most of our friends either have girlfriends they're busy with, work overtime, or have quit drinking totally. He is kind of the last one to really hang onto this "friday night is exciting" thing. Which doesn't reallllly bother me, except it leaves me by myself on a lot of friday nights because he thinks you should do ANYTHING on a friday because "it's a friday".
Since we are in such a transitional period right now, I've felt myself shifting into 'married-mode'. We are trying to prepare our house to be sold, plan a wedding, and live our regular daily lives. FH works a lot of overtime and then wants to kick back with a beer or take a nap. Which was fine when we were 21 or 22 or just not having all this going on in life.
I'm afraid to overwhelm him with conversations about how we are getting married soon and he needs to start transitioning into making what WE are doing his main priority and not just what his plans are (like actual work or his hobbies).
We've been together 10 years like I said, so I already know who he is and I love him. But how can explain that I expect him to shift his priorities because we are getting married without sounding like one of those "crazy wives" the old miserable men talk about that claim women will just try to change everything about you as soon as you're married?