Grooms Cake Explained

I think it's a small cake for the groom, something fun for him. I have a Game of Thrones themed cake planned for my honey.

@Kristin I absolutely love the idea of giving it at the rehearsal!

So it's just kind of like an extra cake, but themed to the groom?

Where I'm from, it's a smaller usually non-tiered cake that is decorated to reflect the groom's personality (like college or favorite sports team). It's always usually chocolate flavored to offer guests a different type of cake when the traditional cake is white

Growing up, I went to a zillion cake-and-punch style receptions and there was always a groom's cake that was a different flavor from the standard yellow cake (usually chocolate) and decorated in a sports/nerdy theme of some kind. I don't think I've seen one since at a wedding I've attended as an adult, but I always thought they were fun! Never heard of putting cake under one's pillow. i'm sure that would summon ants much more quickly than it would a husband.

I'd never known this to be a thing until WW.

It is a tradition that leans heavily on the stereotype that the wedding is "for" the bride and the groom is just attending. The real wedding cake is "hers" and a secondary cake is "his." For that reason alone, I have no interest in the groom's cake idea. Our wedding cake belonged to my groom every bit as much as it belonged to me; we chose the style and the three flavors together.

@stpaulgal oh yeah that is definitely off putting. Especially because I'm not much of a pastry or cake fan while my FH has a huge sweet tooth, he is deciding everything about our cake.

I think the idea is that the bride typically designs the wedding cake, to match the theme of the wedding, so there is a separate groom's cake for him that would be something he likes (sports teams, game of thrones, whatever).

Personally, we designed our wedding cake together, but for the rehearsal dinner we chose an Italian restaurant that was BYOB and said I could bring a cake/dessert in for no cutting fee. So I decided to surprise him with a groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner, since I needed a dessert anyway. I ordered a hobbit house for him, which he loved. If I can find the pic I will post it.

Not letting me add to my other post but here's his hobbit house cake. I used the same cake store as our wedding cake.

I've never heard that before. I don't really understand it other than the fact that the wedding is seen as the "bride's" and not necessarily the "groom's" but if a groom is going to make a big deal over a cake, that would be just ridiculous.

@Courtney your grandmother is not losing it. She is absolutely correct.

From Martha Stewart:

Traditionally, the groom's cake is not served at the wedding. If you are not serving any desserts other than wedding cake, however, you might break with tradition and serve the groom's cake to all your guests after the wedding cake is served. Perhaps more typically, individual slices are boxed up before the wedding and given to the unmarried women at the reception. Legend has it that if an unmarried woman sleeps with a slice of the groom's cake under her pillow, she will dream of her future husband.

@letti THANK YOU! I thought I was going crazy for a bit lol I like the idea of unmarried women taken them home to do that a lot better than a separate came for the groom. I love silly traditions like that.

I am doing it as a cute surprise for him just! It will be a Game of Thrones cake! I am only doing the top half/ part though as we will already have a lot of cake!

A grooms cake is smaller than the wedding cake. It may come in a different flavor than the wedding cake so people have a choice. in my experience when the wedding cake is covered in fondant people greatly prefer the grooms cake. They're not meant only for the groom, they're just designed with the groom in mind. Like the bride might have her big elegant cake then a Batman grooms cake.

Most weddings I've been to have had a groom's cake and they're always served at the reception. I think there adorable, but I'm not really interested in the extra expense, to be honest.

I think grandma is pulling your leg!!!

We used it as the rehearsal dinner dessert. DH got a camping themed cake.

I always thought it was the more lighthearted cake rather than the white traditional one. We are having multiple cakes but are not distinguishing between bride and groom. We both want all the cakes

Grooms cake are a big thing in the south. I've never been to a wedding where there wasn't one but we're just doing one big cake so it just depends on what you want at the end of the day.

I really don't understand this trend & seems like a waste of money to me but to each their own! I've seen plenty and think they're beautiful... we won't be doing this though. FH doesn't even like sweets lol.