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Groom’s Parents Paying for Wedding - Invitation Ideas?

Braelynn, on April 20, 2021 at 4:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hi there,
So my fiancé’s parents are paying for most of our wedding 100k+ that includes venues, catering, rehearsals. My family is paying about 20k for everything else (planner, florals, DJ) and I am also paying 10k of my own money. For our invites we just had them say “together with their families celebrate the wedding of” and then our names. But my MIL got extremely offended. I get it! She’s paying a lot of money and wants her name on the invite. I don’t mind doing this but how should we do that? She said to include both parents names but I believe the etiquette is for mine to go first, as my name should be first on the invitation right? I’m just afraid that may offend her. She asked that their names be first on the invite. Anyone else experience this? How did you do your invitations? Any ideas on how I should handle this?

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Latest activity by KYLIE, on April 21, 2021 at 5:42 PM

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Stacey · on April 20, 2021 at 4:53 PM
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This seems to flow well. Put his parents names first instead. Maybe make their names slightly larger, or put your parents names in italics. You'll find tons of invitation examples online; try searching around until you find one that you like!
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Dj Tanner · on April 20, 2021 at 5:08 PM
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How incredibly uncouth! That’s extremely inappropriate for them to even push your family aside, as typically it’s the brides parents names that would go first in a situation where you’re putting both of the parents names on the invites. You could put Mr. and Mrs. blah blah blah and then your parents names cordially invite you to an evening blah blah blah and so on. Good luck with the future in-laws… It sounds like you’re going to need it.
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Michelle · on April 20, 2021 at 5:13 PM
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This is a good compromise if ‘Together with their families’ is not an option
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Grace · on April 20, 2021 at 5:34 PM
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First off, that is a lot of money so I am not surprised your FMIL wants her name on the invitation. I would go with Stacey's proposed wording and put his parents names first and yours second. Tradition doesn't effect whose name is first, the person paying has their name first.
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Catherine · on April 20, 2021 at 10:34 PM
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Wow! That’s an insane amount of money. I’m not surprise she wants her name on the invitation. I love the wording of Stacey’s or something close to that. But your FMIL is correct, her name should go first, follow by your parents names and then yours and your future husband. It goes by who is financially responsible for the wedding. Since your wedding cost would be drastically different with only 10,000 or 30,000 if you combined your and your parents contribution, your future mother in law should go first.
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Judith · on April 20, 2021 at 11:38 PM
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Not right. The primary host parents names go first,
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of Susie, daughter of ..... bride's parents.......,
and their son Nick or Nick Granby, son of Mr.... Granby ( who were hosts at top.)
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