Wedding is Jan 2020 on a cruise ship. We are paying for everyone's cabin/taxes/fees/gratuities as well as $79 per head for on-board wedding/ reception. Guy is one of my best friends (if we all weren't so old, he would be a "bridesman" as opposed to telling FH to make him a "groomsman"!) Anyway. Guy is married to a bi-polar woman who, self-admittedly, "hates people". They have never been on a cruise before, and Guy claims they both "were looking forward to it."
FACT: this wedding has been "on the books" for over 18 months (we needed that much time to raise the necessary funds).
FACT: his cabin has been paid-in-full for about 6 months and his engraved groomsman's gift has been purchased and engraved and his tie just arrived.
FACT: they sold their house last month and moved to a new city and and are building a new house.
He called yesterday (about 2 hours after I finished a 14.5 hour overnight shift and had just called asleep!) to tell me his wife's new job would not allow her the time off to go on our wedding cruise. He called out like he was an invited guest, which, if he WAS "just a guest", no big deal; things happen. But he is NOT "just a guest"! His *wife* is, but he is a Groomsman!
Can I tell him that I'm sorry his wife's new job will not allow her to accompany him on the wedding cruise, but, that I will not release him from his obligation as a Groomsman? Granted, if this was a land-based wedding, it would be easier to tell him to "suck it up" and leave her at home for the weekend, but this is a 5-night Caribbean cruise...
What are your thoughts?
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