Okay, I hope this doesn't sound bridezilla-ish as I have one month until the wedding, and dealing with everything COVID related.
Some back story so you know where I am coming from. My fiance has a groomsman that we have been really good friends with for a long time. He has been unemployed for two years, occasionally working a temporary job in the summers. And he has known about this wedding for the past year and a half, because that is how long we have been planning this wedding, and he was asked within the first month of us getting engaged.
At our engagement party two months ago, he let us know that he is working his temporary job and has to ask for time off, and he will let us know. We said okay, it is very important for us to know because he is in the wedding party and the wedding is a couple months away. He has been working this job for over a month now, and has not let us know anything. My fiance has checked in with him many times, always starting a conversation first, then asking him the update. He always says he is renting the suit in a couple days and hes "pretty sure" he will get the time off. I must add he also ignored my fiance for a while saying he was busy working while we watched him and his girlfriend travel on social media.
Well my fiance is so tired of trying with him he let me handle it. I sent him a message a week and a half before all RSVPs for my wedding is due saying i saw he didn't rent his suit yet(we can see online), and if he knows about the time off so we can make proper accommodations since he is in the wedding party. I told him my fiance and I HAVE to know by the RSVP date or else we may just assume hes not coming in general. He of course, did not respond.
I have a lot of emotions because he is a really great friend of ours, and i feel like my fiance and i are trying everything with him, even checking in on how he is doing with his job.
Is it bad if I just cut him out of the wedding if i don't hear from him at a certain time? Our wedding is in a month at this point and I am a little at a lost of what to do while waiting around for him.