Groomsman in military blues instead of tux?

I personally wouldn’t want the best man to stand out more than the groom, but I would leave it up to your FH.

I thought if they were active military, they were required to. Maybe not. But nevertheless, I think he should. He deserves to.

Honestly, I feel like it would be different if he was the groom or a FOG or FOB wearing military uniform. How do you feel about him wearing it? I think it is fair, that if you don't want him in his uniform, that you politely ask him (or have FH ask him) to wear what the rest of the wedding party is wearing.

If it doesn't matter to you, then I would let him wear it! But remember, the day is about you and FH, ultimately.

I personally think this is a wonderful wonderful thing. I also think it’s actually required for military but I don’t think he would stand out at all, if anything I think it’s amazing to show that he’s serving our country and he’s proud of it. I personally would love seeing this and I really think everyone else will too. I totally totally think you should let him wear his military attire. Let’s not forget that our Beautiful American weddings probably wouldn’t be possible without the supporting our military men and women. I think it’s a great idea and congratulations on your engagement

I'm not sure about the levels and the situations (active, not active, retired, all that) but we were going to have FBIL and the BM in their Navy blues, with FH and the other GMs in their grey suits. We think it's nice because of both of our families having Navy backgrounds (FHs father was also in the Navy) and it's less for them to have to rent or buy a suit. I think everyone will know who the groom is because he's going to be by your side all night.

He will stand out more than the groom. Especially if highly decorated. I would ask him to match the rest of the wedding party.

Well, he will definitely stand out, which is what he wants. The question is, is that what you and your future spouse want?

Also, a military uniform is NOT a requirement to attend formal events. Service members just have to wear certain uniforms if they choose to be in their blues other other dress uniforms.

Is there a compromise we can make? Like wearing a black tux but still displaying his military ribbons or pins somewhere? I do want him to show his pride, but also don't want him to stand out so much that it throws off the photos - yes, I know that's a bit petty, but we put effort into having everyone else matching and we're only 4.5 months away.

He is a private in the reserves for those asking, though we never know when he will be called to active duty.

I don't believe they're required to be in uniform for a civilian wedding.

Maybe I'm missing something here, but why does he want to wear his dress blues for a wedding that isn't his? My brother-in-law was one of our groomsmen and he's in the Marines and never once asked if he could wear his dress blues. For his wedding he wore them and so did all of his groomsmen because they were also Marines. I wouldn't want the best man standing out more than the groom, I don't think that's petty at all. It's great that he's serving our country, but it also isn't his wedding and not the time to make it about himself in my opinion. What does your FH think about it?

View Quoted Comment For the same reason service members wear their uniform into Macdonalds off base....attention. haha

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I didn't want to say that, but honestly that's kinda how it comes across to me too. The best man at our wedding has been in the Air Force for 20ish years, never mentioned anything about wearing his uniform/credentials and neither did our groomsman who's been a Marine for 10+ years. Just seems a little odd to me.

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My FH is definitely the 'yes to anything' type (which makes him both incredibly loveable and incredibly frustrating lol). He turned to me a couple days ago and said "my brother can wear his military dress uniform to the wedding right?" Haha. He hadn't thought about it. But he is completely fine with asking his brother to wear a tux instead. I'm just trying to gauge what is typically done at weddings in this situation before we give an answer.

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If I were in your shoes, I would definitely ask him to wear the same attire as the other groomsmen. Like I said, it's great that he's serving our country, but your wedding is about you and your FH! All eyes should be on the two of you

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Thanks! That really helps.

View Quoted Comment It is. My Fiance and I have both had military service and we hate wearing uniforms to events where they aren't needed. In fact, we don't even stand when they ask service members to stand for whatever reason. Some people just really like the attention. Otherwise, I don't know why you'd want to wear them. They are entirely uncomfortable for most branches of service.

He's earned the right to stand out. He should wear his dress blues if he wants to.

No one will be confused about who the groom is.

I don't know anything about military protocol but if he asked to wear them, I think it's respectful to grant that. He volunteered to serve our country, if it is only him wanting to show off, he's earned that (in my opinion!)

View Quoted Comment I thought they were too