Okay let me preface this by saying my wedding is a year and 7 months away and I am not trying to make this decision right now. I am looking for advice on how to handle this for the time being.
So my FH is the president of his fraternity and has 2 brothers. He had a very easy time choosing his 2 brothers as co best men and 4 of his frat brothers as groomsmen (they're absolutely inseparable). He has already asked them and so I would like a bridal party of 6 on my side to make the numbers even. I have 2 co maids of honor who were no brainers and 2 sorority sisters who I am also inseparable with who I asked to be bridesmaids. My other 2 spots however, I would like to choose MUCH closer to the wedding as relationships form and change.
One of my FH groomsmen has been dating this girl for 6 months. I like her well enough for the most part thankfully since we hang out and talk quite a bit while the guys do guy things. However, 2 of the months they were dating I lived on the other side of the country so I've really only known her a short time and never really make plans to do stuff just the 2 of us. She is really into wedding planning (which is fine) but she keeps asking me to go to catering and cake tasting, be a part of stuff I am planning for the entire bridal party, etc. Shes even gone through my pinterest board and gave me advice and critiques. She has asked several times to be a bridesmaid as well, sometimes when I'm sober, but most of the time while we are drunk at the bars. No offense to her but at this point I don't think I would want her as one and again I'm not ready to pick yet which I've told her. I don't know how to nicely tell her to back off a little. I also don't want to cause any drama with my FH groomsman who is dating her.