I am about to lose my mind. My FH's youngest brother was supposed to be in our wedding in September and said he would be there no matter what. His wife got pregnant roughly nine months ago and is due this week or next. We are excited for both of them, and of course, we told him we understood if he wanted to back out of being a groomsman. He said no that he wasn't missing his eldest brother's wedding and he was going to come, even if it's to fly in the morning of the wedding and fly home after. I have repeatedly checked in with him over the last nine months of this pregnancy and every time his answer has been the same.
All of a sudden today, TWENTY-FOUR DAYS before our wedding (all COVID policies being followed, half the guest list cut, etc). he has decided he doesn't feel comfortable leaving his wife/new baby. Which I UNDERSTAND, I really DO and that's why I have been ASKING HIM the last NINE MONTHS if he WAS SURE about coming to be in the wedding.
It's too late to replace him, but my bigger concern is how my FH is going to take it. HIS OWN BROTHER is not coming to his wedding. I understand the baby etc, but like.....I don't know. I know I sound super selfish and like a b!ch, but I just can't with this family! I had to chase down that RSVPs for his side, the groomsmen haven't even ordered their suits yet (online from GenTux!!) and I am ready to just scream!
What do I do?!! Do I try and get a stand in? Do I let FH handle it? How do I deal with one of my 'maids all of a sudden lacking an escort?