Groomsmen hates bride?

What’s his problem with you...? Did something happen? Did he get offended by something you’re not aware of, etc?

View Quoted Comment Ya he found me generally overbearing. He has a very alpha male personality and I’m and power woman so we’ve been friends awhile but always butt heads at times. However it seemed very out of the blue. He brought up little random things that I’ve apologized for often and genuinely. The main thing was the overbearing... which me and my fiancé made changes and did things to show that we were still our own people and I’m not controlling him

It’s hard to give advice when we don’t know the story. It seems like this would make things awkward during any pre-wedding events and on the day, but if he’s a good friend hopefully it can be resolved before the wedding. Maybe the three of you can sit down and talk things through. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment I’ll be frank with you - I completely dislike my husbands best friend who was his groomsman. I never said it to the groomsman though. But basically I tolerate him cause he’s my husbands best friend - doesn’t mean I need to be HIS friend. I just have to be cordial enough.
My husband knows I don’t like him.

In your case he’s just so up front about it! How does your fiancé feel about him still being a groomsman?

View Quoted Comment I agree. We have tried talking about it but he won’t budge. There was never a fight so there’s really no details to even give... we are trying to hold out longer because he’s a friend but this has gone on months and Dylan says he wants his groomsmen to support him

View Quoted Comment My fiancé would like him to be involved but he hates having to kick me out of his own birthday party if he wants his groomsman to show up. His groomsman won’t tolerate me being in the same room. Our whole friend group has to hang out in sessions between us. My fiancé feels kinda force to split between us.

View Quoted Comment See that’s kind of wrong for sure because his friend has to realize at the end of the day you’re the spouse and you’re not going anywhere. Both of you need to be able to maturely tolerate each other and be cordial enough. Maybe THAT is a convo you can have with the groomsman - that you guys (mostly him) need to learn to be cordial with one another. It’s not practical that your husband can’t have his good friend and his wife together in a room because one can’t stand it enough to.

View Quoted Comment I get him wanting his groomsmen to support him, it sounds like he’s not even willing to give you a chance or hear you out. If it was the other way around, one if you bridesmaids hated your FH and wouldn’t even speak to him, what would you do?
I feel like, yes my girls are there for me, but they are also there to support us as a couple.
I hope things work out for you.

View Quoted Comment Ok, I agree. We are gonna try and bring it up again then. Hopefully this time we can work to tolerate each other more.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. And yes if any of my girls treated my FH the way he’s been treating me for the past month I would be absolutely livid. I want them to support both of us.

No one should be hating you on your wedding day. Especially someone in your wedding party. If I were you Id talk to my fiancé about finding his replacement. Bridal parties are there to show support for the couple. If he doesn’t support you as well than he’s not there for the right reasons.

In my opinion you need to rope FH in and tell him this guy will not be more than a guest on your wedding day.
I get it if you’re not a huge fan of him for a trivial reason, but how can he be a groomsman for his friend when he can’t stand the bride?!
If he had tried to make amends or was more mature about things, I’d be more understanding, but he’s too old to be acting in such a childish way and just flat out avoiding you

We had a guy like this. We never met so he couldn’t actively dislike me, but I know he resented our marriage because of some drama which I won’t get into here. I wouldn’t focus a lot of energy on this but just let it play out. This is his problem not yours and he probably won’t show up anyway.

That seems pretty childish to me that he avoided your fiancé’s birthday because you’d be there.
A wedding is a huge life event. Even bigger than a 21st birthday. If he’s not going to be fully supportive, I wouldn’t want that negativity in the party to impact the day. Obviously since he’s your fiancé’s friend, he can still be invited but if he doesn’t deal with his issues and set them aside for the wedding and everything/everyone it involves then that would be a huge red flag for me.

So. My fiancé isn’t the biggest fan of my best friend and I very much dislike one of his groomsmen. I think my feelings towards his groomsman is stronger than his feelings towards my best friend....I have my reasons. But I never tell him not to invite this person to things, in fact I reached out to him myself for my fiancé’s surprise 30th birthday party last year to invite him. While his groomsman doesn’t have to like you, he does need to respect his friend’s decision to be with you. If he isn’t going to take part in your fiancé’s life because you’ll be around, he has no business being in your wedding. Especially if you didn’t do anything disrespectful to him or offend him and it’s just a power thing. That’s really immature of him. And you shouldn’t have to change yourself for someone else!

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I appreciate your input ❤️

View Quoted Comment I totally agree! Thank you for your input I appreciate the help!

View Quoted Comment I didn’t even consider that he might CHOOSE not to be there. That is a possibility. Thank you. I’ll focus on the positive. I appreciate your help 😊

View Quoted Comment I agree. We’ve read through these comments together and he plans to be much more forward with him and how he’s treating me. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Best of luck with it all girl, it’s tough having to deal with something like that. I hope it all works out, whichever way that may be!