Guest addresses

I would call and ask them for their addresses, and explain that you need the information so you can send them a wedding invite. If they still won't give it to you, then I'd either move on or hand them the invite in person.

I would try a different way. If you've been leaving voice messages, try text or email. If you've only been texting, try calling. I was able to reach many of my family members on Facebook messenger. You also need to give it a few weeks. People get busy. Is there someone in your FH's family that might have alot of addresses? My mom is famous for keeping up with everyone's addresses! It was helpful when it was time to send my daughter's grad invitations... That's another idea! Is there anyone in the family who might have sent out invitations lately? They might be able to share their address list with you.

View Quoted Comment I had considered handing out some of the invitations personally instead of mailing them, but I was afraid it would be tacky. Some of my closer friends are getting theirs handed to them because they're helping with planning and other things. They want to have the first invites, straight from the package. This might be the solution. Thank you 🙂

View Quoted Comment FH suggested getting the missing addresses from other family members, too. I feel that if we have both asked them directly, and they don't respond, then they don't wish to attend. A small part of his family has made it known that they don't support our relationship and try to get the others to shun us as well. I wanted to invite everyone and give them all a chance to accept or decline the invitation for themselves. It's nerve wracking because some of the guests who aren't answering are usually really good to me.

I suggest reaching out and verbally telling them that you really would like them at your wedding but you need their addresses because you’re sending them out by this time and if they want to be incorporated they need to either go on the website and put in their address or verbally give it to you

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the suggestion. I've never been that firm with any of them before. Now would be a good time to start.

If they know you’re engaged and asking for addresses, it’s obviously for invitation purposes. Anyone who is too lazy to write a text back or ignoring me on purpose is, in fact, sending a message that they are not interested.

View Quoted Comment That's what I was afraid of. I came here to make sure I wasn't overreacting. It's been 2 months for the ones I'm talking about.

View Quoted Comment It will be their loss in the end. You’ll celebrate with those who want to support you.

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I would, I have found sending the link or just asking for the information and plugging it in yourself less headache it can be kind of annoying getting everyone's information.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Thanks for the support ❤️

View Quoted Comment It really is! I can only imagine how the RSVPs are going to be.

I used whitepages.com to get address for people I didn't know.

FH has a lot of family friends that were invited that he didn't know the addresses for and his parents aren't really helpful, so I knew which town they all lived in and was able to get all our missing address by searching for them on white pages.

View Quoted Comment That's an interesting idea! I'll have to see if I can find a few of them that way. Thanks!