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Well, I don't.

View Quoted Comment That’s very nice 👍🏾

Wow, this would be incredibly rude and bad hosting.

View Quoted Comment Well everyone took it the wrong way yes my mine is made up but I did wanted to know was it a bit much but everyone was rude with it but again I apologize for asking for opinions and I will not anymore and for my invitations stated the requested colors are black and gold to be honest everyone just jump down my back but the few who agreed but everyone was in title to their on opinions and if it’s my wedding that my fiancé and I are hosting feed and supplying free everything I don’t think it was a bad idea to ask everyone to wear a certain color most ppl go out and buy new outfits anyway but it’s cool I dreamed of my wedding been a certain way since 18 and I’m sticking with it sorry if you all don’t agree but I’ll delete this app cause everyone starts attacking not asking what reason or why I wanted it that way maybe in was in memory of my father who passed away but again that’s cool I will not ask anymore questions and I hope everyone marriage is more than successful good luck everyone and yes I still feel it’s not a problem with asking to wear a certain color and not to wear a certain color but to each it’s own

View Quoted Comment I think I worded my comment wrong. I was saying it would be better to put that on your wedding website rather than the invite, that way you can make sure that everyone knows your expectations. And also, it’s an easier way to put out answers or clarifications our to everyone rather than getting a lot of phone calls/emails etc. from guests making sure their attire is okay. I know a few brides that have put pictures of what their vision is on their website. But, when I reread the discussions, you’ve already told everyone by word-of-mouth, and that works too! Either way, as long as you let them know- I don’t see an issue with it. Especially those colors! I would also make sure your guests know whether or not it is a formal or black tie event too. I apologize, as I don’t remember whether or not you specified what that is! I have noticed that people on these groups can be very blunt and straight forward because you are a stranger to them... they don’t realize that there’s a person on the other side of the screen. I’ve thought about asking questions anonymously just because of that. Hope you have a good day ☺️.

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What would have been the right way to take it?

Sure! You can mention “suggested colors” in the same way that couples list the suggested attire (casual, formal, etc). But demanding specific colors wouldn’t be good. Our wedding is quite colorful, so we thought it would be fun for guests to wear black or black/white. So on our wedding website’s FAQ page under the attire question, it says “Join in on the fun of the wedding celebration by wearing either black or black and white cocktail attire”.


That will also be listed on our invitations. It’s lighthearted and not demanding. However if someone wears a different color that’s totally fine, of course. We’re purposely having a destination wedding weekend in Vegas for the fun of the environment. And since we know our guests are lively and fun too, they’ll play along and enjoy it. Plus black attire is already in their closets and they won’t need to buy anything.

For the record, Sada, this seems to be a very divisive topic on WW based on some previous posts about the same issue. People here tend to get real up-in-arms and touchy about it so don’t feel too discouraged. We all like to think there’s a right way and a wrong way when it comes to weddings, but there’s really not. Especially if something you’d like to do doesn’t fit into their perceived norm. 🙄 To each their own, live and let live. There’s really no need for everyone to be so condemning about it, especially when it’s something that’s becoming more common. It’s your wedding—do what you want.

Please let them know what it is that you want. They can think whatever they want cause people do that anyway. Enjoy your day with everyone in the colors you want them in!

I am shocked at how this thread went 😂

I have heard of a few people who have done this. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with it, depending on how its advertised to the guess. White-out affair, black out wedding, etc... People have themes for functions and events all the time and I don't see why having one for a wedding is a big no no when it comes to the guess attire.

View Quoted Comment Same here. 😂😂😂😂😂

View Quoted Comment Exactly went the wrong way 🤣🤣🤣🤷🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Exactly but they acting like the world going to end because I suggested black or gold common colors that’s easy to find 🤣🤣🤣🤷🏽‍♀️

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I agree with all of what you said!!

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I think you took it the wrong way. You said that you were denying people entry if they don't wear the colors that you want. So that's not SUGGESTING, that's REQUIRING. As long as you SUGGEST it then it's not a problem but to deny entry is where it is a bit much. And I think that's what majority, not all, people were trying to say to you but you took it as people being rude.

In my opinion, it depends on just how particular you are going to be. My fiancé and I wouldn't have an issue with the request to wear black as I own a black dress and he owns a black suit. The problem we would have is if you would also expect our accessories to be black or gold as well. I personally hate gold so all of my dress shoes are silver as well as the clutch I normally take with me to weddings. My fiancé's job doesn't require him to wear a tie so he has very few ties none of which are black and gold so would he be expected to go buy a tie in one of those two colors or would it be okay for him to wear a green tie for example? If we would be expected to buy accessories in either black and gold, it would honestly be a waste of money for us because I would NEVER wear gold shoes again and he would probably never wear a gold tie either.

It would depend on how you word it. It is not uncommon to put attire is black tie or casual. You don't wanna say "you're not allowed to wear red" but maybe something like attire: we ask that guests

"We ask that guests wear black and gold to enhance our color theme" or something like that.