Guest count at my wedding!

I'm with you on everything you just said.

I've also often heard it said, weddings bring out the worst in people.

First off, congrats on your upcoming big day, i know it means a lot especially for being together so long!! (i'm a 10 year couple too)

I'm sorry it's less than what you expected. Think positive though and enjoy it, you'll still have a good time and the people who matter most are showing up. It's going to be an amazing day for you and try not to focus on that stuff like the major price tags you're paying.

I've heard quite a few of the "i can't get off from work, can't get off from school, CoVid is still a problem blah blah" but then you see those same people going out everywhere else 0 questions asked. it's hard not to get angry by it!!! Especially since these people are supposed to be friends and family and since you're already having a small wedding to begin with it makes it that much harder because you definitely picked the guest list carefully.

I'm having some of the same issues. we only intended for about 60 folks too. We invited about 75 people. I'm waiting on the invitations to come. I'm most annoyed though at our friends right now as some are coming back going "i can't get the day off from work" then i'm finding out that they're taking time to go on vacations a week before our wedding, aka, just found other things more important to them. I'm not judging them for taking a vacation but come on. it's one day to go to a small event that you've known was coming for quite some time now (especially since our wedding was pushed a year from covid - we also did a minimony on our original date so i think some people are starting to have the well you're already married ideas) It's just really shows you how much people really don't care about anyone but themselves i guess.

I totally understand you on this and been in similar situation myself. There are quite a few upsides to a smaller wedding that greatly improve the experience: actual quality time with the guests, every guest has a great view and not straining to see/hear activities, no long wait at the bar. When we downsized our wedding, I took the some of the unexpected extra funds and actually increased the florals. Quality over quantity ❤️ I’m confident your 40 guests will have an excellent experience and the special moments with your fiancé and your closest family will be worth every penny. Hope this helps cheer you up a bit and all the best to you ❤️❤️❤️

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! We would have been date twins if we hadn't had to postpone! I hope you're able to have the most beautiful, fantastic day - so I can live vicariously!

Don't worry about how many guests are able to come. The ones who do will overwhelm you with their love and happiness for this very special and long-awaited moment, and you will be so wrapped up in your new husband and how happy you are you might not even notice who is there! I'm wishing you a magical day, that is everything you've dreamed of.

It’s hard having a wedding during covid! I just sent an email on Friday asking people who RsVPed positively to confirm and have already gotten 5 declines. Mostly Due to covid fears but another due to hip replacement surgery. No idea how many more declines I will get in the next few days. I’m at about a 31% decline rate at the moment.

I went through that last year. We were supposed to get married at the end of March and Covid hit and our guest count dropped from 75 to 10. I was so upset and I cried for about a week. My amazing vendors suggested to reschedule the wedding until the climate changed. We now have a new date for February 2022. Hopefully with the vaccine out now people will feel more comfortable coming together.

Thank you everyone! I feel like I needed to hear this and just to get that reminder that no matter what, its still going to be a wonderful and beautiful wedding. Both spots are especially important to us, we are having a beach wedding, our ceremony is going to be on the cliff overlooking the ocean and than our reception is kind of in a large venue but its close enough to the water that you can touch it, the view is incredible. I always wanted a beach wedding. We had to postponed our wedding last year, originally it was set for last September so this time no matter what we told ourselves that this is happening. Also smaller wedding may be best, I dont really like having the spotlight on me haha thanks again

Congrats… only a few more days to go! Naturally, all weddings have some declines. But covid has made everything a lot worse in that area. But, I understand your feelings firsthand about spending/wasting money. Our wedding is in October (postponed from last October) and a week ago I suggested to FH that we cancel our plans and elope with just the 2 of us instead. Our honeymoon was already booked in Hawaii. So, it was a simple switch.


But, like you, I felt like we would be spending lots of money on a wedding just to have a number of guests not attend. So rather than dish out the thousands remaining in balances, we cut our losses at the deposits (which was MUCH less than moving forward with our plans). I can’t tell you how relieved I immediately felt after canceling with our vendors and then sending guests cancellation notices to our guests this past Wednesday. A weight was lifted and it feels so good to be excited again. We booked an all inclusive elopement package in Hawaii and I can’t wait to marry FH during our intimate beach ceremony. Our plan is to have a big celebration our first anniversary with family & friends next year. I never thought that all of our plans and postponing would lead to this. But, I’m overjoyed and excited about the elopement “adventure”.
The great thing for you is that you’ll still get to celebrate with your guests and i know it’s going to be beautiful. You’ll have so much fun that the worries you have right now won’t even matter that day. Our wedding days might not be what we originally envisioned, but they will be fabulous and, ultimately it all adds to our beautiful love stories! There’s no doubt that us covid couples are truly special. Definitely focus on the bright side. Congrats again!

Don't let the guest count stress you out, enjoy those who will come to celebrate you two & don't worry about anything else!!!

This happened to us too. Invited 182, ended up with 114. I was super bummed, especially because we had a minimum to hit. One thing that helped me was to find something to be excited about again. Because we had the minimum we started looking into dessert from the venue which we had previously ruled out and settled on an ice cream bar which was fun and helped me look forward to the day again instead of focusing on all the money we were "wasting." Your day will be wonderful, no matter how many people are there!