Guest count

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We originally didn't want to go over 100!

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Girl, I did not want to go above 75 lol. Our guest list was a point of contention with my MIL. She thought we needed to invite everyone she has ever met. We compromised at 100 lol.

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Lol my Husband and I are trying to get ours for the big wedding down to 80 even without any restrictions lol

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It is a huge cut. I have a large family, but my fiancé’s family is HUGE. To give you an idea, he’s the baby cousin (he’s his early 40s) and his oldest first cousin is in his mid 70s and only a couple years younger than my fiancé’s dad. And there are 30 first cousins on his dad’s side alone. Many of his cousins have kids, grandkids and some great-grandkids. And we are both extremely close to our extended families. Most of those 250 people were family. When we made the decision to cut the guest list down, we were trying to keep the guest count to under 50. But with immediate families, aunts, uncles and 1st cousins, it would be 125 alone. When we looked at cutting cousins out, that was doable, but since our wedding is a destination wedding, some of our older aunts and uncles would need to be driven there by some of the cousins — so then the question becomes why does cousin-driver get to come to the wedding but no other cousins? It was too much! So we decided the only in-person attendees would be our grandparents, parents, siblings, and nieces/nephews.

It was a clean break — Either you are or you aren’t and there is no argument there. Lol!! We’re live-streaming the ceremony for everyone else, and we plan to host “I Do BBQs” (or a low country boil) in our hometowns after the wedding to celebrate with everyone in person and watch the wedding videos.

Before COVID we only wanted to invite about 40 guests, so we wanted a small wedding to begin with. When COVID hit, we cut it down to about half and had 23 guests come to our wedding. We were able to livestream for those that couldn't be there. It was perfect for us with our closest friends and family. 🥰

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Oh that will be nice, you are still finding a way to celebrate with everyone else!

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That's a cute, intimate wedding! I LOVED my minimony of 35 guests. Our big wedding is more for my husband he has friends that live out of state and one just moved back into the country so they will all get to FINALLY be together again (they're his groomsmen). I think it will be the first time since high school

Ugh. The dreaded guest count. The bane of my existence LOL this has literally been the only part of wedding planning I don’t like. We keep going back-and-forth on whether to invite only immediate family, some extended family, or all extended family. As it stands now, we plan to invite immediate family, wedding party, and closest friends. I believe the total is like 45 people. If we decide to invite aunts and uncles as well, it goes up to nearly 70 people. If we invite cousins also, that number shoots up to 112.

134 but our covid guest list will be 85

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If you had to decrease the number again would you? Or would you postpone?

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& that's a big difference in terms of pricing! I definitely get it though because it's like you ideally want to celebrate with everyone but it also can get reallyyyyy expensive that way and even with COVID who knows what the restrictions will be

View Quoted Comment Very true! And if we do the small, intimate wedding, my parents are expecting us to have a local reception for the rest of the family that wasn’t invited. Which means having to plan a whole other event 🤦🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Postponing is not an option. We just wanna be married 😂😂😂 I would drop it to 2 people if I needed to! Although I think our venue’s capacity is 350 so prayerfully 85 would be within guidelines.

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And end up spending the extra money anyways! At least you have a little while to decided, goodluck lol

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Lol I definitely get it! My husband and I ended up getting married on our original anniversary day with about 35 of our closest family and friends because we really just wanted to be married. And if it holds 350 then I think 85 would be fine.

Our venue holds 300 I believe and our coordinator said that we could have 80 people as of right now

Thankfully our area isn't too strict on guest count due to COVID. So our guest list is still at 192 haha! We are estimating 170 coming though because a few of them are out of the country/state and some are elderly family members that won't attend.

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And your wedding isn't until 2022? I think that COVID will be much better by then so hopefully it won't affect your wedding at all!

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Yeah we're super lucky so far! (knock on wood & fingers crossed haha)

Right now we are at 102 and that’s including the wedding party. I’m sure it might change once we do the final head count.

That's a good number. Are you prepared to possibly make cuts due to restrictions? Or will your venue still allow 102 people?