Hey Guys!
26 days to go till I go from Miss to Mrs.! I am so excited! That being said I'm pretty frustrated in a certain situation and maybe could use some positive outlooks... lol btw sorry for the long post, just a little venting.
Guest list frustration:
We are having a DW so all the guests have to travel. Most people are coming in a few days before and leaving the day after or 2 days after. Being a DW I was fully prepared for a lot of declines. I am a tad annoyed that my RSVP date was Friday and I am still missing about half my RSVPS but thats fine. We counted on having about 80 out of our 120 guests show right now we are sitting at 65 so not too terrible!
My frustration lies in my little cousin (who is not so little actually I have just always called her that). I gave her a plus one even though she wasn't in any relationship (Her parents have money to throw around so I knew she would end up bringing someone anyways). Shes bringing this guy she started seeing and they are coming into town on the 10th ( we get married on the 13th). She mentioned to me that her family and and her will be leaving on Monday (we are getting married Sunday) but he has to leave on Sunday (the day of my wedding). Again not a huge deal but then she tells me because they are flying in and renting a car together she will have to take him to the airport for his 8pm flight and the airport is about an hour away. Assuming he has to be there an hour early that is 7pm which means they will need to leave by 6pm (which is right when dinner starts) I know she will be there for the ceremony and thats what counts but its still frustrating shes leaving for the entire reception.
side note: my cousin and I have always been very close and we live pretty far away but we make sure we are there for all the important things. I understand why shes doing it but still frustrates me a little.
Bridesmaid frustration:
I have one bridesmaid that is literally driving me bonkers. I love her to death we have been friends for 11 years but she tends to get head over heels in love with all he SO's really close which in turn results in her being super flaky ALL the time. She started dating this girl back in the end of July or beginning of August and I met her once for my friends birthday and guys, this girl has the worst case of RBF I have ever seen. It took her an hour and half to even say hello to me at the party( I say party but it was like 8 people at a bar) because she was just standing back watching everyone, it was so weird. All that aside I of course extended her an invite to the wedding and she has confirmed she will be coming. Now on to the bridesmaid.... she was having financial issues during my bachelorette weekend which is okay I actually paid for her to come because it was important to me and she really wanted to come. That being said I did that out of the goodness of my heart not expecting anything from her other than her to be there and have a good time. We got there on friday and left on sunday. She called me friday and said she got called into work and couldn't make it out there that night but would be there saturday morning, cool nop big deal I totally get it. My hours constantly change. Saturday morning comes around and she calls me at 930 and lets me know she is on her way... She doesn't show up until 230pm because she was hanging with the girlfriend... again no big deal all we were doing was beach and thats not for everyone. She gets out to the house we rented and over the course of the night talked to the girl friend on the phone at least 4 different times and excused herself from all bachelorette festivities.... I was a little annoyed but let it go. This past weekend was my bridal shower which she and her girlfriend RSVPd yes to. She messages me friday and says " Hey, I worked 50 hours this week and have two papers due on monday for school. Would you be mad if I didn't go to the shower?" I was in school and I work 70 hours a week, I get it. I told her absolutely not I completely understand. Do what you got to do... that was until I saw her facebook and she posted pictures out to lunch with the girlfriend and hanging with other friends.... okay now a little annoyed.... THEN she calls me yesterday and goes " Hey I was just wondering if you have a timeline fo wedding events when we get to TN. Ashleys family is from up there so we are going to spend time with her family and we kind of want to make it our first vacation together so we have some dates planned. I just want to make sure the scheduling all lines up." So slightly frustrated I tell her yeah no big deal I get it we are up there for a week so theres plenty of time. I just need her to be free on Saturday because thats the rehearsal and day we all decided to get nails done and sunday for the wedding. She goes on to tell me okay but on Saturday can we make it quick because they want to go apple picking....
Guys! I am so frustrated its unreal! Am I in the wrong? Like I get it the bridal parties job is to show up and thats it but she wanted to go to both parties and made it clear so I went out of my way to arrange it and then she bails because the girlfriend. Same with the trip. I am only asking for 2 days of the 9 she will be there....
