Hi ladies
Half in need of practical advice and half venting due to disappointment and stress.
We booked our venue in 2019 in Costa Rica for a 2021 wedding. Two houses, one larger one smaller. Small one for family large one for friends and bridal party. Covid came and people started losing work, etc. we all know the complications of the last year… We got twitchy because we were on the hook for the full cost of the rooms - over 20, for 5 nights each. We canceled the larger house and kept the smaller one because we didn’t want to lose all the money we already put down. The owner was really incredible and understanding. Fast forward to now… this change means we aren’t stressing about over committing financially thankfully, but we are required to significantly reduce our guest list now that we are in the smaller house. We need to be at 45 people or less. Family is outweighing friends at this head count, bridal party is feeling too big now, and we have to break the news to so many people we love that we can’t have them there. I’m definitely in a place of “how do I choose between these people on who should come or who shouldn’t? They are both just as close of friends…” it’s like… the worst way to feel. Not to mention trying to balance how many of the few friends still invited are mutual, mine or my FH’s. At this point I am really wondering if we should trim the guest list right down to family and childhood friends only. FH suggested it might be something to consider, but I have this nagging feeling that the wedding won’t be fun and energetic with so few people. I always wanted a small wedding, and we are fortune to be spending a mini vacation with our nearest and dearest. There is just a big part of me that wants my family to experience the joy all our friends will have about our union. Our family sees us and is excited for us, but they don’t get to see the love and support we have from others as often. AGH. Have you had a small wedding? How did it go? Am I just stuck in anxiety city for no reason? Any suggestions on what to do with the guest list… max out at 45 or trim it right down? I’m in a really bummed out headspace.
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