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Michelle
Rockstar December 2022

Guest list without any outside obligations/expectations

Michelle, on December 14, 2020 at 6:00 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 23

Since the couple makes the final and only decision as to who is most important to them being in attendance at the wedding, outside influence and pressure has no place in who makes the final cut. It's not up to parents, siblings and others to decide who gets an invite as their day has come and gone...
Since the couple makes the final and only decision as to who is most important to them being in attendance at the wedding, outside influence and pressure has no place in who makes the final cut. It's not up to parents, siblings and others to decide who gets an invite as their day has come and gone (or hasn't arrived yet).


If you and fiance had full control of the guest list completely ignoring any and all influence and pressure from others, only inviting who you wanted, how would that number differ from the count you would have if parents/siblings/friends dictated the list for you as is often the case?
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    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    My first marriage was very different. I wanted 6 people to attend, his parents, my parents, MoH and Best Man, My parents were paying for the whole thing, and I wanted minimal expense. Mom said no way, we have to invite some friends and family. I said have at it, let me know who we're inviting. Since she knew I didn't want a big, grand affair, she kept the guest list to 35. It was happy compromise.

    My second marriage, I wanted to elope. So we did.

    Between the two, everyone got their way!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    I agree. Prior to WW I had no clue that parental pressure was even a thing. The guest list should be only those who know and support the couple who is getting married, not family/parent coworkers/acquaintances that even the parents aren't always that close to.

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  • Louise
    Savvy June 2022
    Louise ·
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    I'd be in a similar situation to this. And FH and I are trying to figure out if we do infact want to cut these people as we are trying to make cuts to the list.

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