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I’d wait to see who declines first, because you may get some then see if the venue can give you a little wiggle room with the few extra.

View Quoted Comment I agree. With COVID especially, you could get 10 or more declines.

I'm sure you've explained the situation to the venue, and you could see if there's any wiggle room at all on their head count. However it may be a firecode/covid rule that they're not able to break. You could wait on RSVPs, and you might be safe. You would just have to explain the situation pretty fully to whoever you might have to cancel on. At this point with how small your list is, any of the guests you have to have this difficult conversation with are going to be understanding and not want to add any additional stress to your planning. I can't imagine throwing a fit about being cut after rsvping if I were to be told the background/story to why its happening.

Not saying you have to throw your FMIL under the bus, but, she laid down in the middle of the road, it's not your fault if the bus hits her at this point.

Also, PS:

What happened to your main account? You just posted about this on Tuesday didn't you?

View Quoted Comment I was so upset and deleted it and thank you for the advice

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Gotcha! You may have deleted the app, but you should still be able to log into the old account if you don't want to lose all those posts/progress you made on the old profile

View Quoted Comment Thank you I didn't know I could but I'll see if I can 😊

Well this is an easy one! Just simply cut your in-laws from the guest count! That leaves you with eight people left to cut... if there are other in-laws that have an issue with it, then just cut them too. Anyone that would sabotage their own child’s wedding day over pettiness in spite doesn’t deserve to even have a seat at the table. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with all of this. Is there any other venue you could try to find? Or is it too late?

View Quoted Comment It's to late and I think we only got this place because I told the lady everything that happened to us.

View Quoted Comment I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Out of 60 guests, are there any cousins or any +ones who don’t live together that you could potentially cut? if the venue won’t budge, that’s where I would start first. I know it breaks every rule of weddings but you’re in a predicament here and it’s not your fault. Also, I would say send a message to people who you haven’t seen in the past year that you felt were obligation invites. I would explain the situation to them and if they take it the wrong way well look on the bright side, at least they were only obligation invites and you weren’t that close anyway. If a friend who I wasn’t close with came to me and told me the story you just told me, I would have zero problems with them uninviting me and my fiancé. I think anyone that has an ounce of understanding and compassion would be OK with it.

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I am with this 100% I would not invite them either. Like a previous poster said, your MIL laid down in the road the bus hit HER. HARD.

This is why people elope.

This is why negotiating peace in the Middle East is easier than wedding planning.

View Quoted Comment I think I can cut 7 people 2 are neighbors and their significant other and the other is my dad's friend and one is a plus one for one of the groomsmen who doesn't have a date anyway and knows all about what's going on. But other than that we don't really have any other people I can think of, with it being a small wedding pretty much everyone is close to either my fiance or I. I'm going to talk to him about cutting his parents out as well for putting us in this situation in the first place. Anyone I have to disinvite will know it's all his moms fault, I have no problem throwing her under the bus. We also have to find out what the covid rules are, with it being indoors they may be more strict and I know some people who don't want to follow the strict guidelines and already said that if they have to do this or that to come to the wedding they won't be attending, so there is also those people that will cut themselves.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I mean even with those people that can’t put themselves aside for one day to wear a mask, cut them too. Look I absolutely hate masks and I am so thankful that we don’t have to wear them on my wedding day, but if I had someone that I cared about and I had to wear one to attend their wedding, I would wear 2 if I had to. I’m assuming you’re not forcing people to get the vaccine in order to attend, so if people can’t put themselves aside for one day then that’s just sad.

View Quoted Comment That is a great start on the 10 you need to cut. Don't forget that some people may still decline the invitation if your RSVP date has not yet passed. You may not have to make any decission at all if 3 people either RSVP no or choose not to come due to COVID safety regulations.



My heart goes out to you and your FH. ❤ I cannot imagine the stress and heartache. So glad you found a new venue and I am really sorry his parents put you in this position.

Once the invites are sent, it is rude to revoke them. But things happen. I would hope that the in laws are not on the guest list. Are there any friends of parents who wouldn’t miss being cut? Anyone you invited out of obligation to make someone else happy who you aren’t close to? Make a list of those you can’t imagine the day without. With Covid still being a thing, you may have declines for that reason.