Guest List

We did ours as separate lists of immediate family, close friends, distant family that we were close to, friends that we could go either way on, and distant family/ friends that we aren't particularly close with but would invite if there was space. Everyone from the first few lists made the cut, and then from there we narrowed down from the last list in the order.

View Quoted Comment I got the same problem smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

I understand. I have a very large family and my FH has so many very close friends that are like family to him. I had no problem cutting people. I have cousins I haven't seen or spoken to in years so they obviously did not make the cut. My FH had some difficulty because he is VERY good at keeping in touch with people!! What helped him is another one of his friends is getting married this year and brought up the subject of people who just didn't make the cut who he felt weird about not inviting and his reasons for why he decided not to invite them. I think that helped my FH realize that he isn't going to look like a bad guy simply because we cannot invite EVERYONE. Especially since we quickly realized we made it to our 150 guest maximum very quickly just because everyone is a couple!

View Quoted Comment We specified on the invitations “we have __ number of seats reserved for you.” Hopefully it goes smoothly when we get our RSVPs back lol! We also had “due to the limited number of seating this is an adults only event” printed since we aren’t allowing kids to attend.

View Quoted Comment I don’t mind kids… well certain kids. I can’t really tell people “your kid is bad please don’t bring them” lol. I’ll have to keep you RSVP idea in my mind.

View Quoted Comment Hi Erin again just cap that is including there plus +1it too that number this where ppl will like the others said dont do it out of obligation we said 55 but just incase 65 was our capping point. Don't stress just follow your heart.

Definitely feeling some stress with the guest list. Between deciding who to invite and prepping all the invites (addressed stamped etc) to have 2 people pass away in the last 2 weeks (one due to age one due to a serious of unfortunate events) I am feeling stressed.

We started with saying 80 people, that went to 120 and by the time we are finished we invited 142 people. We have 90 confirmed rsvp's. I am fine if it stays with that but have prepared for the rest to show. I come from a huge family, this is my 2nd wedding so I tried to keep it down and I mainly invited friends. This is his first so I let him invite more that I felt needed to be.

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Do you mean 'how to word the rules on who gets a +1? If so, I won't encourage you to write these . Some guests may feel miffed/scorned! Just add "+1" or "and guest" for whoever is allowed to bring a +1, after the name of the guest.
For those who can't bring a +1, just write the names of those who are invited, if someone asks whether they can bring a +1, just tell them you can't give everyone a +1 due to budget and/or venue max capacity limits and tell them something along the lines of "I'm sorry I can't give a +1 for everyone but hope you'll understand, I am (or we are) excited to celebrate with you".

You could also say that you don't want people you haven't or barely met, it would make you uncomfortable.

It’s crazy! Everyone I know is coming out of the woodwork now! “I hope I get invited”… I haven’t spoken to you since high school 10 years ago! Ugh. It’s hard. But the ones that really matter will be there. Try doing a first round of invites/RSVP’s then if you don’t get as many as you’d like, do a second round!