Hello!
I have a small family and my groom has a large family. I knew with his brother getting married he had 300. I wanted to put my foot down at 250 before gathering our list. Now that we have our parents list im a tad irritated because of course his mom went over what we told her she could have. She also made a comment how she didn't even invite all of these other people I dont know. I've been with my FH for 11 years. I asked him who are these 20 people on her list and he doesn't even know but wont say anything to his mom to get them removed.... Im just annoyed because we are over by 15. My venue fits 600 so space isn't an issue. But I said 250 and meant it and we are at 275.
My groom said to not make it a big deal and that some of these people wont even come but why am i allowing this when my parents and us are going half on the wedding. His mom is giving us 1K to help with things but hasnt yet but she has the biggest list and will cost us more than 1K........
Should I make this a big deal or not? My side of the list is only 75 we have 35 in bridal party with parents, flower girl, ring bearer and the rest is his side.....