Hi Ladies!
So I have a specific issue I need your advice and help with. I already know that guests and plus ones are always a sensitive issue and are totally up to the bride and groom's discretion. My fiance and I have been very diligent with our guest list on who and who not to give a plus one to depending on their relationship status. Because let's be real, we really don't want a whole bunch of randos coming to our most special day. So one of my best friends is our officiant and he is coming from Arizona for our wedding in New York. He's been dating this girl I've never met but since he is coming from far away and doing something for the wedding, we decided to give him a plus one for her. And of course, they literally just broke up and now he is wanting to bring a friend with him. The thing is, I was already originally hesitant to give him a plus one because his relationship with his girlfriend wasn't clear and I also never met her. Now that the situation has changed, I most definitely don't really want him bringing a random person with him. Our wedding consists of multiple events happening around the wedding, we have a cultural event on Thursday, Friday is intimate with just family and close friends on the farm (we're doing a barn wedding and staying at the farm all weekend) and we'll all be busy setting up and doing rehearsal that evening. Then Saturday is the wedding and he'll be here for everything. I just think it's weird if his random friend is there through all of that, especially on Friday where it's going to be an all-day very intimate thing and she won't know anyone, nor do I really care about getting to know her at this time lol. If he really wants to bring someone I was going to suggest he bring one of his sisters since I know them well. I don't know what to do here or how to approach this. Do any of you have advice??