Guests babysitter cancels

“Sorry to hear that. We’ll certainly miss you.”

Just tell her that the kids meals weren't included and you already submitted the final guest count.

I agree with Denise. Just let her know you aren't able to accommodate her children and hate that she won't be able to make it if she isn't able to find another sitter.

I agree with the other ladies. They have a few days to find a sitter o else I guess they can’t come.

Have her look into vetted babysitters such as care.com. There is still plenty of time to hire someone.

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THIS. It's too soon to make any other additions or changes.

I second PPs. That's their personal thing to solve, not yours!

I personally would accommodate, but you definitely don't have to.

Tell her unfortunately you already handed in the final count and you can’t add two meals, seats, placements, favors, etc 5 days out. Tell her you’re sorry and hope they can still make it.

I agree with the other ladies. She has time to find a babysitter. It's your day and should go how you want it to go. I feel like if you accommodated one person then others would feel some type of way; and that's another reason why we made ours a "kid free event ". In the end, make the decision right for you and your FH

Honestly that's way too short notice to begin with considering i'm sure your final count was already given. so just say, i'm sorry that happened, but unfortunately i can't accommodate them at such short notice.

My cynical self always wonders about situations like this. Five days out seems an odd time to cancel. If the sitter is ill, they'd cancel the day before or day of. It would make me wonder if she even had a sitter, or just brings her kids everywhere and that is her excuse.

I agree with PPs, it's too late to add more people, kids or otherwise. Let her know you're sorry to hear that, but if she can't make it because she can't find another sitter you'll understand.

Go on Care.com and find a Sitter close to the Vensue or 🏩 that is available for the 📆 and 🕰 that you need.

Make sure that you do NOT tell them that it’s for a Wedding. Just book them, give them the date and time that you need them, and provide the location the day before.

Oh, I misread. There’s no one that she can schedule a play date or sleep over with?

How old are the kids?

I would said no. The thing YOU have to be prepared for though is that might mean she can’t come (and you’re stuck paying for her plate), so, be aware of that. But, totally reasonable to say that headcount has been turned in and you won’t be able to accommodate the children . They need space, chairs, and food, so it’s pretty unreasonable for her to expect you to come up with that so last minute.

we had one no show at n the day of our wedding, and it was someone whose childcare backed out at the last minute. They didn’t even ask, just , the mom came and the dad stayed home with the kids. I DO wish they’d said something though, as while I would not have accommodated nor been able to squeeze in the kid, i could have easily set them up with another relative who was babysitting some other cousins’ kids nearby— so I could’ve at least given them that option. Would not have changed my wedding for them, but maybe could’ve helped them be able to come!

Oh, I forgot to say “Congratulations and 🍀”‼️

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Yes, this. Also add it wouldn’t be fair to others who also had to make babysitting arrangements. If you only come back with the meal count being a reason, she will probably offer to bring their food. She can look for another sitter. Not to be rude, but this is not your problem. She’s being selfish by even asking you, knowing you said no kids. We also are not inviting children, and this includes FH’s brother’s twins, who I will also mention is our best man! Politely tell her you can not accommodate them, and hope she can find other arrangements.

"I'm so sorry to hear that! Unfortunately we already submitted our final count to our venue & caterer so we can't add any kids or adults at this point, especially budget-wise. If you guys find another sitter or decide not to come, let me know. Thanks!"

As above. Hope they find a sitter, sorry if they cannot come otherwise.