Guests Have Decided to Go Vegan and I Don't Have Food For Them

I thought this would happen. Real jerky move on the guests part. Maybe I am naive or old fashioned in some way, but I was taught that if someone invites you for dinner, you eat what is served (barring allergies, etc.) I would never think to question the sourcing of food given to me.

@AQuixoticBride - I was raised the same way. Unless there is an allergy or a religious reason, you eat. You say thank you. My sis in law is GF as she has Celiac's - fine, I sent her some options, she chose and all was well. My siblings (and some other guests, I am sure) are all about organic, non GMO farm to table, kale is a superfood, etc.....they scooped our food and went back for seconds.

Wow. Who are these people? I wouldn't even want them at the wedding.

Oh my, high maintenance at its best. Their seats are now next to the kitchen or the bathroom. Worst seats in the house.

Norma, why don't you try doing a plated meal for 300 guests with four choices in 15 minutes and then tell me that the caterer is lazy.

I haven't read the comments, but my FH and I are vegan and never expect anyone to cater to us and would never expect someone to contact their caterer just for us. As vegans we don't want to seem difficult because well it just gives vegans a bad reputation. We just stuff ourselves with food before we go anywhere. They are just being difficult.

Honestly it is pretty balsy last minute but you shouldn't have to change anything. I would be honest with the person about your dilemma and see if they have a solution for you. You can always get one of those ovens, maybe from your registry even. Warm up their food in there. Ask you moh to serve them or someone else if your caterer refuses. Just be honest with the person. You cannot get a caterer or deposit back last minute. It's a costly issue and they need to be understanding

@Ash's comment for the win. That is perfect!

Omg I just read the comments. How annoying and rude can these people be!!!

@rica There was an update, turns out guests aren't vegan they just want free range chicken.

We had a few vegans at our wedding and they brought their own food. We are in Montana though, where veganism is extremely rare so they are kinda used to it.

This is definitely annoying. But one rule of thumb i learned while wedding planning is to always have a vegan option no matter what. Its hard to keep up with people and their changes.

Since they decided to become vegan right the hell out of nowhere and have no problem expecting your wedding to revolve around their choices with little to no notice, be prepared for them to contact you 5 days before the wedding and say "oh btw we're not doing the vegan thing anymore can we still go with our original meal?"

Uber Eats or Yelp 24 might be an option.

Will your caterer plate the delivered food as an alternate to preparing?

Best wishes on your amazing day!

I actually read through all 12 pages because I couldn't believe this insanity.

@Mary, congratulations and best wishes on your wedding. After all this stress I hope you have a beautiful wedding and a truly happy life.

As someone who has been in the hospitality industry for over 20 years, I beg you all to read Celia's comments. The caterer is not rude just honest. Serving vegan meals is not the same as serving vegetarian. It is unethical and quite frankly can be dangerous to serve someone who is vegan a meal which is not prepared correctly. It is not as simple as removing butter from the meal. My little sister is vegan and will become violently ill if served food incorrectly prepared.

Until you have prepared meals for over a hundred guests with special requests, served them on time and at the right temperature, you do not truly understand how difficult it is to accommodate 2 guests. It is an interesting idea to bring in two vegan meals but now you are asking the bride to worry about the delivery and service of these two meals or have the moh, who should be focused on keeping the bride calm and happy on HER special day worry about these TWO meals, or have the DOC who needs to ensure EVERYTHING else runs smoothly worry about these TWO meals. REALLY!!! No bride needs to deal with this madness this close to her wedding day, but then on top of that, they aren't vegan. It's an insult to every person who is vegan, by choice or for health reasons to pretend to be rather than being up front.

They would no longer be my problem. Come or don't come their choice. Is the chicken free range? Sorry, I don't have the time or energy to dial the caterer's number to find out. I already used what was left of my patience trying to figure out vegan meals so you can eat the chicken if you come, not eat the chicken or not come.

Madness, madness I tell you.

Tell them to bring their own damn kale. Super rude of them to say anything especially since this was a recent lifestyle change...

Tell them to bring their own damn kale. Super rude of them to say anything especially since this was a recent lifestyle change...

Can't believe how rude some people are saying this is on the OP?

Um no... this is on her difficult guests who decides to suddenly be vegan with no warning AFTER RSVPing a meat option... not even vegetarian haha what a joke

They were not vegan their entire adult lives pretty sure they can wait till after wedding.

I would never switch my caterer over 2 guests and most certainly not over a sudden food preference change.

Glad I poured myself a glass of wine before I read this. Yikes