Guests in shorts

Tell your fiance to stop being dramatic. You can't control what a grown adult guest decides to wear. Your FH will probably have bigger things to worry about on his wedding day than what a random guest is wearing. They're shorts, you are having a beach wedding after all.

Let it go. That’s how you control it. You can’t control what other people wear, and you’ll still be married regardless of how many people show up in shorts. I went to a DW at a beautiful resort in January and the father of the groom wore shorts. It was fine.

I would let it go. There may be a reason he is wearing shorts like he gets overheated easily and sweats more or could faint.

I don't see the big deal. If I were a guest, I'd think a nice pair of khaki shorts and a button up was good for a beach wedding. But I know not everyone thinks the same as me. Why did they ask you about his attire to begin with, if they weren't going to listen to your request? I don't know, I just don't feel like a guest wearing shorts is something worth stressing over. I hope you're able to get it handled/figured out though.

I don’t think you can control what this person wears, but you could point out to your friend that all other men at the wedding will be wearing pants (I assume linen pants) as it is a beach formal wedding and that he may feel out of place if he’s wearing shorts.

I would say it nicely as “just wanted to let you know so that X doesn’t feel out of place and/or under dressed, but every other male attending the wedding will be wearing long pants to the event since it is a formal event”

In my mind, adding the word "beach" to formal makes me think a really nice pair of shorts and a button up shirt. My guess is that there will be a number of people in shorts. If you wanted pants, it may have been safer to say semi-formal leaving the "beach" out of it. But that's neither here or there. Ultimately, you can't control what anyone wants to wear and realistically it shouldn't matter. It is on them. If they feel out of place, that is on them, not you.

I understand the frustration, unfortunately can't control to that extent the dress code. He may pqir it with a nice button up that'd look fine! Although when I was a bridesmaid I did WHATEVER the bride wanted but not all are that way. Sorry to hear the frustration, just ignore it! Very small hiccup to be worked up over!

Agree with everyone. Encourage FH to let it go. I'm also a "a guest in white won't ruin my day" kind of bride, though. I just can't imagine letting someone else's choice get me that upset on a day I've spent every ounce of energy and money on to enjoy.

I agree with everyone else. You can’t control what people wear. Let it go, you’ll still have a great wedding!

You don't get to control what other people wear. You guys kind of invited questions when you put "beach formal" on invitations. Just let it go.

Well you can either let it go or kick them out of the wedding, kind of a bridezilla move though.

The only people you can suggest required attire to are your wedding party, FH, and then of course yourself. All others are open to wear what they choose. Seeing that the location is a beach, it is likely he is not the only guest that will be in shorts.

I'm a glass half full type of gal - so at least he didn't he was going to wear funky Hawaiian print swim trunks right?? (;

If he’s out of place, he and his gf are the ones who will have to feel that. Why let it ruin your day?

I am kinda on both sides of the fence with this one. I def feel like if u tell people to specifically NOT to wear something to your wedding they should listen or like the other girl go bridezilla and un-invite him.... but on the other side of that it says beach formal... so normally people wear shorts to the beach and when I read ur post and seen that I thought the same as the other ladies khaki shorts and a nice button up, ladies in a nice sundress.... beach style.... I think u should have totally just avoided beach formal and stuck to semi- formal... and my guest u are probably going to have a lot of guys in khaki shorts.... If it’s bothering u and FH that much I would say sit them down and lay down your rules and if he don’t wanna follow kindly let him know he is not invited, but u may want to inform the rest of your guest cause they may not be asking cause they are thinking the same way we were???

I don't think there is really anything you can do but stress over it. If it was a black tie, invitation only type of event that might be a different story but a beach wedding, I am actually more surprised that more of your guests aren't wearing shorts and they probably will be once they start arriving. You can't force anyone to wear something they don't want to wear especially if they aren't part of the bridal party and have agreed to the attire choice. Your wedding will be beautiful no matter what the guests wear.

Your guests shouldn't be forced to wear a specific type of outfit, unless it were a fancy a** Wedding and everyone needed to wear formal gowns and tuxs. Especially being a beach wedding, pants are super uncomfortable in sand, and not to mention hot. There are nice shorts to wear, it's not like there are only sweats or workout shorts. They have nice khaki, Jean, and misc colored shorts avaliable.

Beach Formal includes a nice pair of shorts. You guys are being crazy dramatic about this and if I messaged someone saying my FH bought shorts for their BEACH wedding and they said they'd prefer pants, I'd reply with then we'd prefer not to attend.

We are having a DW in Cancun a group of FH's buddies are wearing Tommy Bahama's and I would never dream on policing anyone's outfits.

What will the weather be like?

I had to go look at the dress code my TA put on my website because I’m also having a beach wedding. A dress code should be followed but people are gonna people. They were wrong for being wretched about it, but wearing shorts to a beach wedding honestly makes sense. Now he comes with some loud Bermuda shorts, throw him out.

I am having my guest wear all white and it’s mandatory based on my theme.. I think shorts is appropriate for a beach wedding